Sau nawa muke ba kanmu kalma - don fara sabuwar rayuwa, daina shan taba, rasa nauyi, sami sabon aiki. Amma lokaci yana wucewa kuma babu abin da ya canza. Shin zai yiwu ku koyi cika alkawari kuma ku farkar da canje-canje a rayuwar ku?
"Kowane lokacin bazara na kan yi wa kaina alkawari cewa ba zan yi aiki kaɗan ba," in ji Anton, ɗan shekara 34, manajan aikin. “Amma a duk lokacin da ya zuwa Oktoba, ana fara gudanar da ayyuka, wanda ba zan iya guje wa ba. Tambayar ita ce, me ya sa nake ba wa kaina kalmar da ba zan kiyaye ba? Wani irin rashin hankali…»
Ko kadan! Na farko, sha’awar canji ta san mu. "Daga al'ada, ilimin lissafi da tunani, ƙishirwa don canzawa koyaushe yana kama mu," in ji masanin ilimin halin dan Adam Pascal Neveu. "Gadon gadonmu yana buƙatar mu mu saba da kullun, don haka canzawa." Muna sake fasalin kanmu bisa ga muhalli. Don haka, babu wani abu da ya fi dabi'a kamar ra'ayin ci gaba ya tafi da shi. Amma me yasa kusan kullun wannan sha'awar ta wuce da sauri?
Domin ku cika shirinku, dole ne shawararku ta ba ku daɗi.
Al'ada ta shafe ni. A matsayinka na mai mulki, an sadaukar da kyawawan manufofinmu ga wasu kwanakin alama. Muna yanke shawara “kafin hutu, a farkon sabuwar shekara ta makaranta ko kuma a watan Janairu,” in ji Pascal Neve. “Waɗannan al’adu ne waɗanda a al’adance suke kiran mu mu ƙaura daga wannan jiha zuwa waccan; an umarce mu da mu juya shafin don ingantawa." Wannan yana nufin lokaci ya yi da za a yi la'akari da canza abin da bai yi nasara ba!
Ina neman manufa. Wannan zai zama mafi kyawun sigar kanku! Dukanmu mun yi kyakkyawan hoto na kanmu, in ji masanin ilimin psychotherapist Isabelle Filliozat. "Kuma alƙawarin mu na gaskiya, ƙoƙari ne na gyara hotonmu, don tabbatar da gaskiyar ta dace da manufa."
Tazarar da ke tsakanin wanda muke fata mu zama da wanda mu ke sa mu baƙin ciki. Kuma muna fatan za mu rage shi, ta yadda za mu karfafa amincewa da kai. "A wannan lokacin, na yi imanin cewa shawarar da aka yanke za ta isa a gyara kuskurena da kasawana," in ji Anton.
Fata yana taimaka mana mu dawo da amincinmu. Aƙalla na ɗan lokaci.
Kafa wa kanka ƙananan maƙasudi: cimma su zai ƙarfafa amincewar kai
Ina ƙoƙari don sarrafawa. Isabelle Fiyoza ta ci gaba da cewa: "Mun shiga cikin ruɗin sarrafawa." Mun yi imani cewa mun sake samun 'yancin zaɓe, iko bisa kanmu har ma da iko. Wannan yana ba mu kwanciyar hankali. Amma wannan fantasy ne." Wani abu kamar fantasy na yaro wanda yake tunanin kansa ya zama mai iko duka kafin ya shiga cikin ainihin ƙa'idar.
Wannan gaskiyar ta kama Anton: “Ba zan iya ba, kuma ina jingine shirye-shiryena na shekara mai zuwa!” Kullum muna rashin wani abu, ko dai juriya, ko bangaskiya ga iyawarmu… "Al'ummarmu ta rasa manufar juriya," in ji Pascal Neve. "Mun yanke kauna daga 'yar karamar wahala kan hanyar zuwa aiki mai wahala da muka sanya wa kanmu."