«Mai hikima» shawara daga Intanet, wanda bai kamata a bi ba

1. Mai nasara shine wanda yake tafiya a hankali da aunawa

Idan tseren marathon ne, to, eh, watakila, amma galibi dole ne a yi tsere. Mu duka, ko muna so ko ba a so, za a iya la'akari da mu bayin lokaci: wadatarsa, wanda aka ware don yawancin ayyuka, yana da iyaka. Tick-tock, tick-tock… Bugu da ƙari, muna rayuwa a cikin duniya mai gasa kuma muna rayuwa cikin sauri, wanda ke nufin cewa duk wanda ya fara yin hakan yana da kyau.

2. Kuna buƙatar sauraron dattawanku

A cikin ƙasashe da yawa, wannan har yanzu doka ce marar girgiza: iyaye suna yanke shawara mai mahimmanci game da rayuwa ta gaba da aikin 'ya'yansu, ba tare da tambayar na ƙarshe ba. Sauraron ra'ayoyin wasu mutane, ciki har da tsofaffin dangi, ba shakka ba ne mara kyau, amma a makance bin ka'idodinsu, barin mafarkinka, hanya ce ta kai tsaye zuwa rashin kunya.

3. Yin shiru shine mafi kyawun amsa ga yawancin tambayoyi

Amma me ya sa a lokacin ƙirƙira kalmomi da ayyuka? Ƙarfin yin amfani da magana don amfanin mu wani lokaci ne kawai ba za a iya maye gurbinsa ba, musamman ma lokacin da aka kai mana hari da kuma fushi, kuma muna kare kanmu.

4. Ba abin da ba zai yiwu ba

Da kanta, wannan magana mai ƙarfafawa ba ta da kyau, saboda a lokacin yana taimakawa wajen jin dadi. Yana caje mu da adrenaline da amincewa da kai, yana ba mu ƙarfin ci gaba. Gaskiya ne, burin da muke motsawa zuwa gare shi dole ne ya zama mai yiwuwa, wato, ya kasance cikin ƙarfinmu kuma "mafi tauri". In ba haka ba, amincewa da kai ba zai taimaka ba.

5. Barin Tsammani Shine Tafarkin Gamsuwa

Yin shiri don gazawa a gaba don ganin nasara ta fi zaƙi, kuma faɗuwar ba ta da zafi sosai, aiki ne mai ban sha'awa. Wataƙila ya kamata ku daina yaudarar kanku, maimakon haka ku yi ƙarfin hali ku ɗauki mataki?

6. Komai tunanin wasu

Yaya mahimmanci. Mu mutane ne masu zaman kansu, kuma ba daidai ba ne mu damu da yadda wasu suke fahimtar mu. Don haka, muna saka hannun jari a nan gaba kuma muna ba wa kanmu sabbin damammaki don cimma wani abu da samun abin da muke so.

7. Kada ka kwatanta kanka da wasu: kowa yana da hanyarsa

An gaya mana cewa mun bambanta, amma da gaske haka ne? Muna cikin nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'in nau'i-nau') muna yin ƙoƙari ko ragi don iri ɗaya. Yana da al'ada don duba lokaci zuwa lokaci don fahimtar inda muke a yanzu, da kuma don koyo daga mafi cancanta.

8. Matsalarmu ita ce yawan tunani.

Idan da wannan magana muna nufin karkatar da kai daga cikin shuɗi, to, watakila, wannan ba zai haifar da wani abu mai kyau ba. Amma wajibi ne a yi tunani da nazari kafin daukar muhimman matakai.

9. Komai yana zuwa ga wanda ya san jira

Kamar yadda aka ambata a baya, muna rayuwa ne a cikin zamani mai girma da kuma gasa mai tsanani. Mu ba ruwan inabi ba ne wanda kawai ke samun kyau tare da shekaru. Don cimma abin da kuke so, kuna buƙatar yin aiki a kan kanku kuma ku yi ƙoƙari don wani abu, kuma kada ku zauna. Juyin Halitta doka ce ta yanayi, makomar mutane ita ce yin ayyukan juyin juya hali.

10 Yana da mahimmanci ku zama kanku

Yarda da kai yana da mahimmanci kuma ya zama dole, amma kowa yana da aibi da munanan halaye waɗanda ke haifar da wahalar haɓakawa da ci gaba. "Ka zama mafi kyawun sigar kanka" kiran jama'a ne, amma idan ya shafi lafiya, ƙarfi da ilimi "Sigar kanka", yana da hankali.

11. Kuma a ko da yaushe ka bi zuciyarka

Aikin zuciya shi ne ta zubar da jini ta cikin tasoshin, ba ta tantance abin da ya kamata mu yi da abin da bai kamata mu yi ba. Idan kun tabbatar da mafi wauta ayyukanku, munanan ayyukanku, da yanke shawara masu ɓarna da nufin zuciyarku, ba za su ƙare da wani alheri ba. Muna da kwakwalwa, hankali, Dr. Jekyll, wanda ya fi dacewa da amincewa fiye da daji Mista Hyde.