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"Hai! Yaya lafiya? - Mai kyau. Kuma kuna da? - Ba komai kuma". Ga mutane da yawa, irin wannan ping-pong na magana ya zama kamar na sama ne kuma yana da rauni, da alama ana amfani da shi ne kawai idan babu wani abu da za a yi magana akai. Amma masana ilimin halayyar dan adam sun yi imanin cewa ƙaramin magana yana da fa'ida.
Wannan zai iya zama farkon abota mai kyau
Halin abokan aiki suna tattaunawa game da tsare-tsare na karshen mako a ofis da kuma dogon musayar jin daɗi a taron na iya zama mai ban haushi. "Menene tarin masu magana," muna tunanin. Duk da haka, sau da yawa sadarwa mai sauƙi ce ke haɗa mu da farko, in ji masanin ilimin ɗan adam Bernardo Carducci daga Jami'ar Indiana (Amurka).
"Dukkan manyan labarun soyayya da duk manyan haɗin gwiwar kasuwanci sun fara ta wannan hanyar," in ji shi. "Asirin shi ne cewa a lokacin da ba shi da mahimmanci, a kallo na farko, tattaunawa, ba kawai musanya bayanai ba ne, amma duban juna, kimanta harshen jiki, rhythm da salon sadarwa na mai shiga tsakani."
A cewar masanin, ta wannan hanyar - a sani ko a'a - muna kallon mai shiga tsakani, muna binciken ƙasa. "Our" mutum ne ko a'a? Shin yana da ma'ana don ci gaba da dangantaka da shi?
Yana da kyau ga lafiya
Zurfafa, sadarwa ta gaskiya ɗaya ce daga cikin manyan abubuwan jin daɗin rayuwa. Tattaunawar zuciya da zuciya tare da ƙaunatattunmu yana ƙarfafa mu kuma yana tallafa mana a lokuta masu wahala. Amma wani lokacin yana da kyau ka ji daɗin yin magana da sauri tare da abokin gida yayin da kake cikin lif.
Duk manyan labarun soyayya da haɗin gwiwar kasuwanci mai fa'ida sun fara da tattaunawar "yanayi".
Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Elizabeth Dunn daga Jami'ar British Columbia (Kanada) ta gudanar da gwaji tare da ƙungiyoyi biyu na masu sa kai waɗanda ya kamata su yi ɗan lokaci a mashaya. Mahalarta rukuni na farko sun fara tattaunawa da wani mashaya, kuma mahalarta daga rukuni na biyu kawai sun sha giya kuma su yi abin da suke sha'awar. Sakamakon ya nuna cewa a rukunin farko an sami ƙarin waɗanda ke da giya. mafi kyawun yanayi bayan ziyartar mashaya.
Binciken Elizabeth Dunn ya yi daidai da binciken masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Andrew Steptoe, wanda ya gano cewa rashin sadarwa a lokacin balagagge yana kara haɗarin mutuwa. Kuma ga waɗanda ke zuwa coci akai-akai da kulake masu ban sha'awa, suna shiga cikin rayuwar jama'a sosai, wannan haɗarin, akasin haka, an rage shi.
Yana sa mu yi la’akari da wasu
A cewar Elizabeth Dunn, waɗanda ke yin magana akai-akai da baƙi ko mutanen da ba su sani ba sun fi karɓuwa da kuma abokantaka. Suna jin alaƙar su da wasu kuma koyaushe a shirye suke don taimakawa, nuna shiga. Bernardo Carducci ya kara da cewa irin wannan ne, a kallo na farko, tattaunawa maras ma'ana da ke taimakawa wajen bunkasa amana a cikin al'umma.
"Ƙananan magana ita ce ginshiƙin ladabi," in ji shi. "Lokacin da kuka shiga zance, kun zama baƙo ga juna."
Yana taimakawa wajen aiki
"Ikon fara sadarwa yana da daraja a cikin ƙwararrun yanayi," in ji Roberto Carducci. Dumu-dumu kafin tattaunawa mai tsanani na nuna wa masu shiga tsakani namu kyakykyawar niyya, halinmu da kuma shirye-shiryen mu na ba da hadin kai.
Ikon fara sadarwa yana da daraja a cikin ƙwararrun yanayi
Sautin da ba na yau da kullun ba yana nufin kun kasance mai juzu'i ba, in ji Debra Fine, mashawarcin kasuwanci kuma marubucin The Great Art of Small Conversations.
"Za ku iya cin nasara kwangila, ba da gabatarwa, sayar da aikace-aikacen hannu, amma har sai kun koyi yadda ake amfani da tattaunawa mai sauƙi, ba za ku kulla abota na ƙwararru ba," in ji ta. "Sauran abubuwan daidai suke, mun fi son yin kasuwanci tare da waɗanda muke so."