Kusan rabin ma'aurata suna dakatar da duk wata dangantaka ta kud da kud lokacin da suke jiran haihuwa. Amma yana da daraja a daina jin daɗi? Jima'i a lokacin daukar ciki na iya zama daɗaɗɗen gogewa - muddin kun yi hankali.
A lokacin daukar ciki, jikin mace yana canzawa, haka yanayin cikinta. Dole ne ta yi tunani sau biyu, za ta iya samun sauye-sauyen yanayi da sha'awa. Abokin tarayya na iya samun shakku: yadda za a kusanci mace mai ƙauna a cikin wannan sabuwar jiha? Shin shigan nasa zai kasance da hadari, ko za ta yarda da shi? Amma ga wasu, wannan lokacin ya zama lokacin gano abubuwan ban mamaki da sabbin abubuwan jin daɗi.
Shin jima'i yana canzawa yayin daukar ciki? "Eh kuma a'a," in ji masanin ilimin jima'i Caroline Leroux. "Masana ba su da ra'ayi daya game da wannan batu, amma sun yarda a kan abu daya: sha'awar mace na iya canzawa dangane da watanni uku." Baya ga al'amuran tunani, libido yana shafar canjin hormonal da na jiki.
Ciki da sha'awa
“A cikin watanni uku na farko, ƙirji ya yi tashin hankali, sau da yawa ana sha’awar tashin hankali,” in ji masanin ilimin jima’i. - Wasu matan ba su kai ga soyayya a cikin wadannan yanayi. Canje-canje a cikin hormones da gajiya gabaɗaya kuma suna ba da gudummawa ga raguwar libido. Wani abin tsoro ga mata masu juna biyu, musamman a farkon watanni, shine ko zubar da ciki zai faru. Caroline Leroux ta ce: “Mata sukan ji tsoron cewa azzakarin mijinsu zai iya fitar da tayin waje. "Amma binciken bai goyi bayan alaƙa tsakanin jima'i da zubar da ciki ba, don haka ana iya rarraba wannan tsoro a matsayin son zuciya."
A cikin uku na biyu, canje-canje na jiki sun zama mafi bayyane: ciki yana zagaye, kirji yana kumbura. Matar ta ji ana so. Caroline Leroux ta ce: “Har yanzu ba ta jin nauyin ɗan tayin kuma tana jin daɗin sifofinta, waɗanda suke ganin sun burge ta musamman,” in ji Caroline Leroux. - Yaron ya riga ya fara motsawa, kuma tsoron zubar da ciki ya ɓace. Wannan shine mafi kyawun lokacin jima'i. "
A cikin uku na uku, rashin jin daɗi na jiki zalla ya zo kan gaba. Ko da yanayin yana da rikitarwa saboda girman ciki, har yanzu kuna iya yin jima'i har zuwa farkon haihuwa (idan babu wasu takardun magani na musamman daga likitoci). Waɗannan watanni na ƙarshe na ciki wata dama ce ta gano sabbin matsayi da jin daɗi.
Caroline Leroux ta ce "A cikin uku na uku, yana da kyau a guje wa matsayin "mutumin a saman" don kada a matsa wa ciki. - Gwada matsayin "cokali" (kwance a gefenku, fuskantar bayan abokin tarayya), "abokin tarayya a baya" matsayi ("salon kare"), bambancin yanayin zama. Abokiyar tarayya na iya jin daɗin kwanciyar hankali lokacin da take kan gaba. "
Amma duk da haka, akwai wani haɗari?
Wannan yana daya daga cikin tatsuniyoyi na yau da kullun: inzali yana haifar da kumburin mahaifa, kuma ana zargin hakan yana haifar da aikin da ba a kai ba. Ba maganar fada bane. "Orgasms na iya haifar da ciwon mahaifa, amma yawanci suna da ɗan gajeren lokaci, kawai uku ko hudu," in ji Benedict Lafarge-Bart, wani ob/gyn kuma marubucin Ciki na a cikin 300 Tambayoyi da Amsoshi. Yaron ba ya jin waɗannan ƙanƙara, saboda ana kiyaye shi da harsashi na ruwa.
Kuna iya yin jima'i idan ciki yana tafiya da kyau
Caroline Leroux ta ce: “Idan ana fitar da al’ada da ba a saba gani ba ko kuma ta haihu da wuri a baya, zai fi kyau ka guji kusantar juna,” in ji Caroline Leroux. Placenta previa (lokacin da yake a cikin ƙananan ɓangaren mahaifa, daidai a hanyar haihuwar yaro) kuma ana iya la'akari da contraindications. Jin kyauta don tattauna abubuwan haɗarin jima'i tare da likitan ku.
An fara jin daɗi da fahimta
A cikin jima'i, abubuwa da yawa sun dogara da yadda za ku kasance da kwanciyar hankali da shirye ku amince da juna. Ciki ba banda a wannan ma'anar. "Rashin sha'awar na iya kasancewa saboda gaskiyar cewa abokan tarayya sun yi matukar damuwa, suna tsoron abubuwan da ba a saba gani ba da kuma rashin jin daɗi," in ji Caroline Leroux. — A lokacin shawarwari, nakan ji irin waɗannan gunaguni daga wurin maza: “Ban san yadda zan tunkari matata ba”, “tana tunanin yaron kawai, kamar saboda wannan na daina wanzuwa.” Maza na iya zama damuwa saboda kasancewar "na uku": kamar dai ya san game da shi, yana kallon shi daga ciki kuma zai iya amsawa ga motsinsa.
Benedict Lafarge-Bart ya ce: "Dabi'a ta tabbatar da cewa yaron yana da kariya sosai a cikin mahaifa." Masanin ilimin jima'i ya shawarci ma'aurata su tattauna duk abin da ke damun su. Wannan gaskiya ne musamman ga maza, ta nanata: “Kuna iya buƙatar ɗan lokaci don ku saba da sabon yanayin. Amma kada ku yi wa kanku duka kafin lokaci. A lokacin daukar ciki, mace ta canza, ta zama mace da kuma lalata. Ku yi murna, ku yaba mata, kuma za ku sami lada.