A cikin rayuwarmu akwai abubuwa da yawa daban-daban, wasu sun yi nasara, wasu kuma ba su ci nasara ba. Wasu suna sa ku ji daɗi, wasu ba sa. Amma idan kun lura da duk abin da ke faruwa a kusa, to a wani lokaci za ku fahimta - abubuwan da ba a rubuta baabin da suke kuma ba a gaya musu yadda za a amsa musu ba. Kawai dai mun saba fassara wasu abubuwan da suka faru ta wannan hanya wasu kuma daban.
Mafi kyawun sashi shine shi zabinmu ne kawai, kuma za mu iya canza shi. A Jami'ar Practical Psychology suna koyar da wannan fasaha, ana kiran motsa jiki "Matsalar - Task".
Ee, ana ganin al'amura da yawa a matsayin matsala:
- Dole ne su kula
- Dole ne mu nemo mafitarsu.
- Dole ne ku ɓata lokaci don yin wani abu da su.
Amma zaka iya sauƙaƙa rayuwarka sosai idan kawai ka kira irin waɗannan al'amura da yanayi ta wata hanya dabam. Ba matsala ba, amma kalubale. Kawai saboda za su haifar da ƙungiyoyi daban-daban a cikin mu.
Don jin daɗi, gwada faɗin nau'ikan jimlar guda biyu ga kanku kuma ku saurari yadda kuke ji:
- La'ananne wannan babbar matsala ce.
- Kai, wannan ƙalubale ne mai ban sha'awa.
Bambancin shine na kadinal, amma dole ne muyi aiki a cikin yanayin da kalmar ta haifar.
- Damn, yanzu dole ne ku bi maganganun ku - matsalar
- Cool, zaku iya bin kalmomin kawai kuma zai zama sauƙin aiki, aiki mai ban sha'awa
Yana da mahimmanci ku fahimta daidai: ayyuka suna kama da matsaloli, suma suna buƙatar kulawa da su, nemi mafitarsu da saka lokacinku a ciki. Amma ba kamar matsala ba - kuna son yin shi tare da ayyuka, ayyuka suna da ban sha'awa kuma maganin su yana kawo fa'idodi na gaske.
Yadda ake saita ayyuka daidai
Abu mai ban sha'awa shine cewa ba za ku iya saita ayyuka kawai ba, amma kuma inganta su:
- Saukar da shawararsu
- Yin binciken neman mafita ya zama mai daɗi da ban sha'awa
Da farko, kuna buƙatar kula da kalmomin matsalar. Formulations su ne:
- Korau - guje wa wani abu mara kyau, fada da wani abu
- Kyakkyawan - yin ƙoƙari don wani abu mai kyau, ƙirƙirar wani abu
Sau da yawa, an tsara wani mummunan aiki na farko - wannan al'ada ne. Yana da mahimmanci don haɓaka al'ada nan da nan ta sake yin ayyuka mara kyau zuwa masu kyau, kawai saboda sun fi sauƙi kuma sun fi jin daɗin warwarewa.
Saita mummunan aiki abu ne mai sauƙi:
- Ina so in daina jayayya da kowa
- Ba na son zama malalaci
- Ina so in rabu da kadaici
Anan an rubuta game da guje wa matsalar, amma babu inda aka ce - amma ta yaya kuke son ta kasance? Babu wani abu mai motsa rai. Babu hangen nesa ga sakamakon ƙarshe.
- Kuna iya ƙara ƙarfafawa
- Yana da mahimmanci don gina hoton da kuke son zuwa
Don tsara aiki mai kyau, ya dace ka tambayi kanka wannan tambaya: "Me kuke so? To yaya abin ya kasance?
- Ina so in koyi yadda ake magana da mutane cikin ƙauna da kirki
- Ina so in koyi yadda ake sauƙi da jin daɗin ɗaukar kowane kasuwanci
- Ina son sadarwa mai ban sha'awa da tarurruka da mutane
- Ina so in koyi yadda zan tsara duk ayyukana da kyau, ta yadda hakan ya faru cikin sauƙi da rashin fahimta
Lokacin da wannan ya zama al'ada, zai faru da gaske cikin sauƙi kuma ba tare da fahimta ba, har ma za ku yi mamakin yadda za a iya saita ayyuka mara kyau, kuma ba ku ma tuna game da tsara matsalolin.
Yadda ake motsa jiki
Ya dace don yin aikin a matakai biyu.
Mataki na
A mataki na farko, aikin shine koyon yadda ake tsara matsaloli da ayyuka. A halin yanzu, ba lallai ba ne don gyara ko sake fasalin wani abu, kawai fara lura da inda aka tsara ayyuka, da kuma inda akwai matsaloli.
Kuna iya bin diddigin kalmomin kai tsaye a cikin magana, da halin ciki zuwa wani abu, kamar ɗawainiya, da inda matsala.
Kuna iya bin waɗannan hanyoyin:
- A cikin magana da tunani
- A cikin maganganun wasu mutane: dangi, abokai ko abokan aiki
- Jaruman fina-finai, littattafai, a cikin labarai
- Duk inda kuke sha'awar
Idan kuna so, kuna iya kiyaye ƙididdiga. Duk lokacin da kuka lura da wata kalma a cikin rana, yi alama adadin a cikin littafin rubutu ko akan wayarku (ya fi dacewa idan kuna da bayanin kula a hannu). Yawancin lokaci ana lura:
- Sau nawa a rana sune abubuwan da aka tsara na matsaloli
- Sau nawa kalmomin ayyukan
- Sau nawa nake so kuma na sami nasarar mayar da matsalar cikin aiki
Yawancin lokaci yana da ban sha'awa don tattara ƙididdiga na rana, don ganin kashi nawa. Yana da ma fi daɗi kallon yadda adadin ke canzawa kowace rana kuma ana samun ƙarin tsari masu kyau.
Ga yadda shigarwar matakin farko zai yi kama.
1 rana
Matsaloli - Ayyuka 12 - 5 Sake Gyara - 3
2 rana
Matsaloli - Ayyuka 9 - 8 Sake Gyara - 4
3 rana
Matsaloli - Ayyuka 5 - 11 Sake Gyara - 8
Ya dace don gudanar da matakin farko a cikin kwanaki uku zuwa hudu, don haka, matsa zuwa na biyu.
II aiki
A mataki na biyu, kun riga kun shiga al'ada na lura da maganganun matsala kuma sau da yawa juya su zuwa ayyuka. Yanzu yana da mahimmanci a koya:
- Juya duk matsalolin zuwa ayyuka
- Ƙirƙirar maƙasudai masu kyau
Don yin wannan, ga manyan ayyuka guda biyu waɗanda za a iya yin nasara cikin nasara:
- Duk lokacin da kuka lura da wata matsala a cikin kanku, maye gurbin ta da ingantaccen bayanin matsala.
- Duk lokacin da mutumin da ke kusa da ku ya zo muku da wata matsala ko yana magana game da matsala, yi amfani da tambayoyi masu mahimmanci don taimaka masa ya tsara aiki mai kyau (wato, kuna iya gaya masa wannan darasi, bari shi ma ya horar).
Zai fi dacewa don tsara lokaci na farko a cikin matakai uku:
- matsala
- Aiki mara kyau
- kyakkyawan aiki
Lokacin da kuka lura cewa ba kwa buƙatar waɗannan matakai guda uku, la'akari da cewa kun kammala aikin.