Kuna ci gaba da zagi da warware abubuwa? Wataƙila matarka marar kamewa ita ce "kawai abin da likita ya umarta." Sakamakon wani bincike da aka yi kan ma’auratan ya nuna cewa ma’auratan da suke jayayya har sai sun yi taurin kai suna rayuwa fiye da masu hana fushi.
"Lokacin da mutane suka taru, warware bambance-bambance ya zama daya daga cikin muhimman ayyuka," in ji Ernest Harburg, farfesa a fannin ilimin halin dan Adam da lafiya a Jami'ar Michigan, wanda ya jagoranci binciken. “A ka’ida, ba wanda ake koya wa wannan. Idan duka biyun iyayen kirki ne suka rene su, babba, sun dauki misali daga wurinsu. Amma sau da yawa, ma'aurata ba sa fahimtar dabarun magance rikice-rikice." Tun da yake sabani ba makawa ne, yana da matukar muhimmanci yadda ma'aurata su warware su.
“A ce akwai sabani a tsakanin ku. Tambaya mai mahimmanci: me za ku yi? Harburg ta ci gaba. "Idan ka kawai "binne" fushinka, amma har yanzu ci gaba da tunani game da abokan gaba da kuma fushi da halinsa, kuma a lokaci guda ba ka yi ƙoƙarin yin magana game da matsalar ba, ka tuna: kana cikin matsala."
Yawancin bincike sun nuna cewa ba da fushi ga waje yana da amfani. Alal misali, ɗaya daga cikin irin wannan aikin ya tabbatar da cewa mutane masu fushi suna yanke shawara mafi kyau, watakila saboda wannan motsin zuciyar yana gaya wa kwakwalwa ta yi watsi da shakka kuma ta mai da hankali ga ainihin matsalar. Bugu da ƙari, ya bayyana cewa waɗanda ke nuna fushi a fili sun fi dacewa da halin da ake ciki da kuma jimre wa matsaloli da sauri.
Fushin gwangwani kawai yana ƙara damuwa, wanda aka sani yana rage tsawon rayuwa. A cewar masana ilimin halayyar dan adam, abubuwa da yawa sun bayyana adadin yawan mace-macen da ba su kai ba a tsakanin ma'aurata da ke boye bayyanar fushi. Daga cikin su akwai dabi'ar ɓoye rashin gamsuwa da juna, rashin iya tattaunawa game da ji da matsaloli, halin rashin da'a ga lafiya, a cewar wani rahoto da aka buga a cikin Journal of Family Communication.
Idan an dauki harin a matsayin kafaffen tushe, wadanda abin ya shafa kusan ba su yi fushi ba.
Kungiyar kwararru karkashin jagorancin Farfesa Harburg ta yi nazarin ma’aurata 17 masu shekaru 192 zuwa 35 sama da shekaru 69. An mayar da hankali kan yadda suke ganin rashin adalci ko zalunci daga ma'aurata.
Idan an dauki harin a matsayin kafaffen tushe, wadanda abin ya shafa kusan ba su yi fushi ba. Dangane da martanin da mahalarta taron suka yi game da yanayin rigingimu na hasashe, ma’auratan sun kasu kashi hudu: dukkan ma’auratan suna nuna bacin rai, mata ne kawai ke nuna fushi, mijin kuma ya nutse, sai mijin ya yi fushi, matar kuma ta nutse, duka biyun. ma'aurata sun nutsar da fushi.
Masu binciken sun gano cewa ma'aurata 26, ko kuma mutane 52, sun kasance masu hanawa - wato, duka ma'auratan suna ɓoye alamun fushi. A lokacin gwajin, 25% daga cikinsu sun mutu, idan aka kwatanta da 12% na sauran ma'aurata. Kwatanta bayanai a cikin ƙungiyoyi. A cikin wannan lokacin, kashi 27% na ma'auratan da ke cikin baƙin ciki sun rasa ɗaya daga cikin ma'aurata, kuma 23% duka. Ganin cewa a cikin sauran ƙungiyoyi uku, ɗaya daga cikin ma'aurata ya mutu a cikin 19% na ma'aurata, kuma duka biyu - kawai a cikin 6%.
Abin sha'awa, lokacin ƙididdige sakamakon, an kuma la'akari da wasu alamomi: shekaru, nauyi, hawan jini, shan taba, yanayin bronchi da huhu, da kuma hadarin zuciya na zuciya. A cewar Harburg, waɗannan su ne matsakaicin adadi. Binciken yana gudana kuma ƙungiyar tana shirin tattara bayanan shekaru 30. Amma har yanzu ana iya annabta cewa a cikin ƙididdiga na ƙarshe na ma'aurata da suka yi rantsuwa da jayayya, amma suna cikin koshin lafiya, za a ninka sau biyu.