Jin kunya

Jin kunya

Alamomin jin kunya

Tashin hankali da damuwa don mayar da martani ga fargabar wani mummunan sakamako mai yuwuwa (rashin bayarwa na baka, yanke hukunci mara kyau akan sabbin haduwa) yana haifar da haɓakar motsa jiki (babban bugun jini, rawar jiki, ƙara zufa) gami da jin tsoro na zahiri. Alamun sun yi kama da na damuwa:

  • jin tsoron damuwa, firgita, ko rashin jin daɗi
  • Zuciyar zuciya
  • gumi (hannayen gumi, walƙiya mai zafi, da sauransu)
  • girgiza
  • gajeriyar numfashi, bushewar baki
  • jin kuncin rai
  • zafi ciwo
  • tashin zuciya
  • dizziness ko lightheadedness
  • tingling ko numbness a cikin gabobin
  • matsalolin barci
  • rashin ba da amsa daidai lokacin da lamarin ya taso
  • halayen hanawa yayin yawancin hulɗar zamantakewa

Sau da yawa, tsammanin hulɗar zamantakewa ya isa ya haifar da yawancin waɗannan alamun kamar lokacin da hulɗar ta faru. 

Halayen masu jin kunya

Abin mamaki, mutane suna iya gane cewa suna jin kunya. Tsakanin kashi 30% zuwa 40% na al'ummar yammacin duniya suna daukar kansu masu jin kunya, ko da yake kashi 24 cikin XNUMX ne kawai a shirye suke su nemi taimako kan hakan.

Mutane masu jin kunya suna da halayen da aka rubuta da kyau a kimiyyance.

  • Mai jin kunya yana da matuƙar hankali ga kimantawa da hukunci ta wasu. Wannan ya bayyana dalilin da ya sa yake jin tsoron hulɗar zamantakewa, wanda lokuta ne da za a yi la'akari da mummunar.
  • Mai jin kunya yana da ƙananan kima, wanda ke kai shi ga shiga cikin yanayin zamantakewa tare da tunanin cewa ba zai yi aiki yadda ya kamata ba kuma ya cika tsammanin wasu.
  • Rashin yarda da wasu abu ne mai wuyar gaske wanda ke ƙarfafa jin kunya.
  • Mutane masu jin kunya sun kasance suna damuwa sosai, suna daidaitawa a kan tunaninsu: rashin aiki mara kyau a yayin hulɗa, shakku game da ikon su na daidaitawa, rata tsakanin aikin su da abin da suke so su nuna ya damu da su. Kusan kashi 85 cikin XNUMX na wadanda suka dauki kansu suna jin kunya sun yarda da yin mamaki da yawa game da kansu.
  • Masu jin kunya mutane ne masu yawan suka, har da su kansu. Sun kafa maƙasudin maɗaukaki ga kansu kuma suna tsoron gazawa fiye da komai.
  • Masu jin kunya suna magana ƙasa da na sauran, suna da ƙarancin haɗuwa da ido (wahala wajen kallon wasu a cikin idanu) kuma suna da alamun juyayi. Suna saduwa da mutane kaɗan kuma suna da wahalar yin abokai. Ta hanyar shigar da kansu, suna da matsalolin sadarwa.

Yanayi masu wahala ga mai jin kunya

Damar tarurruka, tattaunawa, tarurruka, jawabai ko yanayin tsaka-tsaki na iya zama damuwa ga masu jin kunya. Sabon salo na zamantakewa kamar sabon matsayi (kamar ɗaukar sabon matsayi bayan gabatarwa), abubuwan da ba a sani ba ko ban mamaki suna iya ba da kansu ga wannan. Saboda wannan dalili, masu jin kunya sun fi son abubuwan da suka saba, m, halin yanzu.

Sakamakon kunya

Jin kunya yana da sakamako da yawa, musamman a duniyar aiki:

  • Yana haifar da gazawar wahala akan matakan soyayya, zamantakewa da ƙwararru
  • Don ƙarancin son wasu
  • Yana haifar da wahala mai yawa wajen sadarwa
  • Yana jagorantar masu jin kunya don kada su faɗi haƙƙoƙin su, abin da ya dace da ra'ayinsu
  • Yana jagorantar mai jin kunya kada ya nemi matsayi mafi girma a wurin aiki
  • Yana haifar da matsaloli tare da manyan mutane masu matsayi
  • Yana jagorantar mai jin kunya kada ya zama mai kishi, ya zama marasa aikin yi kuma ya kasance marasa nasara a aikinsu
  • Sakamako a iyakantaccen ci gaban sana'a

Bayanai masu ban sha'awa

« Idan kana son a so ka da yawa, mai yawa kuma sau da yawa, ka zama mai ido daya, mai kaushi, gurgu, duk a cikin sauki, amma kada ka ji kunya. Kunya ya saba wa soyayya kuma mugun abu ne wanda kusan ba zai iya warkewa ba ". Anatole France in Stendhal (1920)

« Abin kunya ya fi girman kai fiye da kunya. Mai kunya ya san inda yake da rauni kuma yana tsoron kada a gan shi, wawa ba ya jin kunya ". Auguste Guyard a cikin Quntessences (1847)

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