Akwai adadi mai yawa na mutanen da suke son magance matsalolinsu na cikin gida, don sanin su. Buƙatar "Ina so in fahimci kaina", "Ina so in fahimci dalilin da yasa wannan ya faru da ni a rayuwata" yana ɗaya daga cikin buƙatun da suka fi dacewa don shawarwari na tunani. Yana kuma daya daga cikin mafi rashin gina jiki. Wannan tambaya ta haɗu da sha'awar sha'awa da yawa: sha'awar zama cikin haske, sha'awar jin tausayin kaina, sha'awar samun wani abu wanda ke bayyana kasawara - kuma, a ƙarshe, sha'awar warware matsalolina ba tare da yin wani abu ba.
Kuskure ne a yarda cewa wayar da kan matsala ta kai tsaye tana kaiwa ga kawar da ita. A'a, ba haka ba ne. An yi amfani da wannan tatsuniyar ta hanyar nazarin halittu shekaru da yawa, amma wannan ba a tabbatar da shi ta hanyar aiki ba. Idan mutum mai hankali kuma mai ƙarfi, ya gane matsalar, ya kafa maƙasudai kuma ya ɗauki matakan da suka dace, waɗannan ayyukan na iya kawar da matsalar. Da kanta, sanin matsalar ba ya canza komai.
A daya bangaren kuma, sanin matsalar abu ne mai matukar muhimmanci. A cikin mutane masu hankali da karfi, sanin matsalar yana kaiwa ga saita manufa sannan kuma zuwa aiki na hankali wanda zai iya kawar da matsalar.
Domin matsalar ta fara motsawa da motsa jiki, kana buƙatar saninsa, fahimtar cewa wani abu ba kawai sifa ba ne, ba kawai wasu yanayi ba, wanda akwai da yawa - amma matsala, wato, wani abu mai mahimmanci da barazana. Kuna buƙatar aƙalla kaɗan, har ma da kan ku - amma ku ji tsoro. Wannan yana haifar da matsaloli, wannan matsala ce, amma wannan wani lokacin yana da hujja.
Idan yarinya tana shan taba kuma ba ta dauki matsalarta ba, a banza ne. Gara a kira shi da matsala.
Sanin matsalar shine matakin farko na fassara matsaloli zuwa ayyuka.