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Wendy ciwo ko dalilin da ya sa wasu mutane ke ba da fifiko ga bukatun wasu
Psychology
A cikin wannan gajiyar neman farin ciki ba tare da gajiyawa ba, halayen Wendy suna taka rawar ceton tare da abokin aikinta, jin ƙauna, dole da amfani.
Idan a 'yan kwanaki da suka gabata muna magana game da cutar Peter Pan, gano wannan halin mai rai a matsayin wanda ya ƙi girma, za mu iya kuma bincika matsayin Wendy, yarinya mai son faranta wa wasu rai don tsoron kin amincewa. Wannan shine yadda aka tsawaita Wendy ciwo.
Wannan ciwo yana nufin, kamar yadda masanin ilimin halin ƙwaƙwalwa Paloma Rey ya nuna, ga buƙatar gamsar da sha'awar wani mutum, kuma galibi yawanci abokin tarayya ne ko yara: «Ciwo ne wanda ke shafar yawancin mata, kodayake ba shi da a kariya ta neuropsychological», Yana nuna.
Waɗannan mutanen da alama suna da buƙatar faranta wa wasu rai ta hanyar neman karbuwa a koyaushe saboda tsoron wahalar kin amincewa da watsi da wani. An san wannan nau'in halayen tare da wannan kalmar don tunawa da halin Wendy a cikin tarihin Peter Pan, inda ta taka rawar dogaro da dangi akan Peter kuma ta hana shi girma da balaga.
«A cikin dangantakar ma'aurata wanda ɗayan membobi ke ɗaukar matsayin uwa, yana da wahala har ma yana hana abokin tarayya su balaga da ɗaukar nauyin bukatun kansu, wanda zai iya haifar da fifikon bukatun ɗayan akan nasu kuma, sabili da haka, a cikin babban matakin wahala a bangarorin biyu ", in ji Paloma Rey. Don haka, a cikin hakan neman gajiyawa don jin daɗin ɗayan, Halin Wendy yana taka rawar “mai ceto tare da abokin aikinta ta hanyar jin ƙauna, dole da amfani.” Wannan yana kaiwa ga ƙaryar imani cewa ƙauna tana nufin sadaukarwa, murabus da ƙin kai, gujewa ƙin wasu da neman ci gaba da amincewarsu.
hali
Kodayake ba cutar rashin lafiyar neuropsychological bane, an gano wasu dabi'un da mutanen da ke da irin wannan hali suke gabatarwa.
- Kammalawar: Paloma Rey (@palomareypsicologia) ya ce su mutane ne da galibi ke gabatar da wannan dabi'ar kuma hakan yana kai su ga yin laifi lokacin da wani abu ya ɓace (a wannan yanayin, lokacin da suka kasa gamsar da wasu).
- Babu wani bambanci tsakanin ku manufar soyayya da sadaukarwa. "Sun yi murabus da kansu saboda gajiya, rashin jin daɗi da kowane irin mummunan sakamako wanda ke zuwa tare da kulawa, ba tare da ɓata lokaci ba, na wani mutum," in ji masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam.
- Suna ji muhimmanci. Waɗannan mutanen suna ɗaukar ayyuka da nauyi "na Peter Pan", suna kaiwa matsayin mahaifiyar abokin aikin su.
- Kullum suna ba da hakuri ko kuma suna da laifin laifi akan abubuwan da ba zai yiwu su yi akan lokaci ba.
- Miƙa wuya: ku guji rikice -rikice da abokin zamansu kuma ku yi ƙoƙarin faranta mata rai ko ta halin kaka, koda hakan yana nufin ajiye farin cikin su a gefe.
Don magance ciwo
Yin la'akari da cewa waɗannan mutane suna gabatar da ɗabi'ar ɗabi'a mai dogaro da dogaro da motsin rai kuma matakin girman kan su yayi ƙasa. Dole ne mu aiwatar da tsoma baki inda aka fi rufe waɗannan wuraren.
Koyaya, kuma a cewar masanin, yana da mahimmanci a haɗa fannoni kamar na masu zuwa cikin jiyya:
- Sanin halin da ake ciki: Gabaɗaya, mutanen da ke fama da wannan ciwo suna daidaita irin wannan halin a cikin alakar su.
- Horar da hankali: lallai ya zama dole waɗannan mutane suyi koyi ba kawai don gano motsin zuciyar su ba amma kuma su san yadda ake sarrafa su. Fahimtar yadda motsin zuciyar su ya taka muhimmiyar rawa wajen haɓaka ɗabi'a zai taimaka musu su guji maimaita wannan tsarin a nan gaba.
- San yadda za a ce a'a: Wannan yana da mahimmanci musamman tunda wannan nau'in halayen yana da halin guje wa duk wani rikici da zai iya tasowa daga ƙin farantawa abokin tarayyarsu. Paloma Rey ya kammala da cewa "Wannan ɓangaren ya fi rikitarwa tunda yana buƙatar zaman zaman lafiya wanda zai iya fuskantar rikice -rikicen tunani waɗanda ke ɓoye a bayan wannan tsarin ɗabi'a," in ji Paloma Rey.
Sabili da haka, dole ne ku kalli waɗannan nau'ikan halayen kuma ku tabbata cewa zaku iya canzawa kuma ku sami halaye da koshin lafiya da yawa.