A cikin al'adun Yammacin zamani na zamani, al'ada ce don watsa yanayi mai kyau. Wahala daga mummunan motsin rai ana ɗaukar abin kunya, shigar da rauni a cikin yanayin yanayi. Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Tori Rodriguez ya tabbata cewa kada mu toshe da ɓoye abubuwan da ke da zafi don kare lafiyar tunaninmu da ta jiki.
Abokin cinikina yana ƙoƙarin warware rikitacciyar dangantaka da matarsa. A matsayina na mai ilimin halin dan Adam, Ina ƙoƙarin tallafa masa kuma ban yarda da maganganu masu mahimmanci ba. Amma sau da yawa, a tsakiyar bayanin abin da ya faru mai raɗaɗi, abokin ciniki ya fara ba da hakuri: "Yi hakuri, ina jin dadi sosai..."
Babban makasudin ilimin halin dan Adam shine koyon ganewa da bayyana cikakken kewayon motsin rai. Amma wannan shine ainihin abin da abokin ciniki ke ba da hakuri. Yawancin majiyyata na suna fama da matsananciyar bayyanar cututtuka, ko fushi ne wanda ba za a iya sarrafa shi ba ko kuma tunanin kashe kansa. Kuma a lokaci guda jin laifi ko kunya a kansu. Wannan shi ne sakamakon shakuwar al'adunmu da tunani mai kyau.
Ko da yake yana da amfani don haɓaka motsin zuciyar kirki, wannan bai kamata ya zama ka'ida da tsarin rayuwa ba.
Bacin rai da bacin rai wani muhimmin bangare ne na rayuwa, kuma wani sabon bincike da masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Jonathan Adler ya yi ya nuna cewa rayuwa da kuma yarda da mummunan motsin rai na da muhimmanci ga lafiyar kwakwalwa. "Ka tuna, muna buƙatar motsin rai da farko don kimanta gwaninta," Adler ya jaddada. Ƙoƙarin danne tunanin "mara kyau" zai iya haifar da ƙarancin gamsuwa na rayuwa. Bugu da ƙari, yana da sauƙi don rasa haɗari a cikin "gilashin launin fure na tabbatacce".
Maimakon ɓoyewa daga mummunan motsin rai, rungumi su. Shiga cikin abubuwan da kuka samu kuma kada ku yi ƙoƙarin canzawa
Ko da kun guje wa yin tunani game da wani batu mara kyau, tunani mai hankali zai iya ci gaba da aiki a wannan hanya. Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Richard Bryant na Jami'ar New South Wales da ke Sydney ya nemi wani bangare na mahalarta gwajin da su toshe tunanin da ba a so kafin su kwanta. Waɗanda suka yi kokawa da kansu sun fi ganin misali na rashin lafiyarsu a cikin mafarkinsu. Ana kiran wannan al'amari "sakin barci."
Maimakon ɓoyewa daga mummunan motsin rai, rungumi su. Shiga cikin abubuwan da kuka samu kuma kada ku yi ƙoƙarin canzawa. Lokacin fuskantar rashin ƙarfi, zurfin numfashi da dabarun tunani zasu taimaka. Misali, zaku iya tunanin motsin rai kamar gajimare masu iyo - a matsayin tunatarwa cewa ba su dawwama. Sau da yawa ina gaya wa abokan ciniki cewa tunani tunani ne kawai kuma ji shine kawai ji, babu wani abu, ba kome ba.
Kuna iya kwatanta su a cikin diary ko sake gaya wa wani da ke kusa da ku. Idan rashin jin daɗi bai bar ba, kada ku jure - fara aiki, amsawa da rayayye. Ka gaya wa abokinka a fili cewa baƙonta zai cutar da kai. Yi ƙoƙarin canza ayyukan da kuke ƙi.
Ba shi yiwuwa a rayu akalla mako guda ba tare da mummunan motsin rai ba. Maimakon yin watsi da rashin hankali, koyi yadda za a magance shi.
Tori Rodriguez kwararre ne a fannin ilimin halin dan Adam kuma kwararre a fannin likitancin Ayurvedic.