Babban dalilan kiba

Duk wani matsala tare da nauyi yana tasowa, da farko, a cikin kanmu, na tabbata Mikhail Moiseevich Ginzburg. Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam, farfesa, likitan kimiyyar likitanci kuma darektan Cibiyar Nazarin Samara ta Dietetics da Dietetics, ya sadaukar da shekaru da yawa don nazarin wannan batun kuma ya yanke shawarar cewa a mafi yawan lokuta matsaloli tare da nauyin nauyi suna farawa a kai.

1. Danniya shine zuciyar komai

A cikin Sabuwar Shekara, muna ƙoƙarin kammala aikin da muka fara kuma kawo komai zuwa kammala: siyan kyaututtuka, yin sulhu tare da dangi, farantawa suruka, farantawa shugabanni… Kuma ba mu lura cewa muna saka kafadunmu fiye da yadda za su iya ɗauka. Don haka, tuki cikin damuwa. A cewar likitoci, wannan shine yadda rikici na ɓoye (ɓoyayyen hankali) ke farawa tsakanin tsammanin mu da gaskiyar da ke kewaye.

Abin da ya yi: idan yanayin rikici ya taso, kuna buƙatar ƙoƙarin yarda da shi ko canza shi don mafi kyau. Misali, ba za ku iya samun yare ɗaya tare da danginku ba, koyaushe kuna cikin fushi da fushi. Nuna hali, kwantar da hankula, kar a mai da martani ga sharhi, ko ma mafi kyau, amsa cikin raha. Da zaran damuwar ta ragu, nauyin ya koma daidai. Ko da ba tare da abinci da motsa jiki ba.

2. Nauyi ya dogara da hali

Mutane suna da saurin fushi da kwanciyar hankali, masu tashin hankali da sassauƙa, marasa natsuwa da rashin aiki. Bayanan martaba daban -daban na tunani shima yana nuna nauyi daban. Misali, masu hazaka suna iya zama siriri, kuma masu kauri, masu mutunci sun fi yin kiba. Amma kada ku yi hanzarin canza nauyi a kan ragwancin ku. Mikhail Ginzburg ya fayyace cewa shirye -shiryen da ke nuna jituwa (kuma wannan shine kuzari da motsi) suna cikin kowannen mu, kawai waɗanda ke da ƙanƙanta suna amfani da su sau da yawa, kuma masu kitse sau da yawa.

Abin da ya yi: koyi zama wayar hannu. Kuma idan yana da wahala, yi ta ta “Ba na so”.

3. Nauyi a cikin al'umma yana ƙara nauyi a jiki

Sau da yawa, mutanen da ke cikin jagororin jagoranci a hankali suna neman ba wa kansu nauyi a cikin al'umma, amma a zahiri suna samun ƙarin kiba. Ilimin halin ɗabi'a ya nuna mafi kyawun mutum ya fahimci kansa, yanayin ayyukansa, mafi jituwa da kwanciyar hankali a cikin ruhinsa, mai koshin lafiya, mafi nasara da….

4. Abinci a matsayin maganin damuwa

Mutane suna amsa damuwa ta hanyoyi daban -daban. Wasu ba sa samun wuri don kansu, suna gaggautawa daga kusurwa zuwa kusurwa (aikin motsa jiki yana kwantar da hankali). Wasu sun fara cin abinci da yawa (kwanciyar hankali na abinci), kuma duk wani ƙoƙari na bin tsarin abinci a cikin wannan yanayin yana ƙara tashin hankali kuma cikin sauri yana haifar da rushewa.

Abin da ya yi: Matsar da ƙari, tafiya, motsa jiki. Tabbas, wannan zai taimaka rage jinkirin haɓaka nauyi kuma, wataƙila, haifar da asarar nauyi. Amma zai zama mafi tsattsauran ra'ayi don koya masa ya rage damuwa.

5. "Da farko zan rage nauyi, sannan ne kawai zan warke ..."

Da yawa daga cikinmu suna danganta taurinmu ko jin kunyarmu tare da yin kiba da gwagwarmaya don rage nauyi. Muna bin tsarin abinci, motsa jiki, ziyartar wuraren motsa jiki. Amma a lokaci guda, mun kasance masu takurawa da jin kunya. Da a ce mun nuna hali mafi kyau (masu ilimin halin dan Adam sun ce - a bayyane), asarar nauyi zai yi sauri da sauri.

Abin da ya yi. Idan kun sarrafa cire shi ko aƙalla rage shi, mutumin yana canzawa, fara sutura da haske, farin ciki… kuma yana rasa nauyi da sauri. Af, wannan ingancin da aka samu yana ƙara kare kariya daga nauyi.

Don haka, babban abu ga mutum shine jin jituwa, wanda ke nufin nutsuwa. Ta yaya za a cimma wannan?

Yadda ake kwantar da hankali da rage nauyi

Gwada duba kusa da waɗanda ke kusa da ku kuma amsa tambayoyi masu sauƙi: kuna son wannan ko wannan mutumin ko ba ku so, za ku ci gaba da bincike tare da shi ko a'a. Ku saurara da kyau ga yadda kuke ji, intuition kusan ba ya yaudare mu.

Amsoshin zasu taimaka muku samun hanyar cin nasara akan wannan ko wancan mutumin da yadda zaku guji rikici da shi. Amma, mafi mahimmanci, yayin da muke warware waɗannan matsalolin, muna da hannu kuma mu kasance cikin ƙoshin lafiya. Kuma yayin da muke mai da hankali ga sauran mutane, muna ƙoƙarin samun hankalinsu, mu sanya sadarwa cikin kwanciyar hankali, da sannu za mu rage nauyi.

Matsalolin asarar nauyi sau da yawa yakan taso lokacin da akwai wani nau'in ma'anar kariya a cikin wannan cikar da ke rage tashin hankali. Idan za a iya gane wannan ma'anar, to an warware matsalar cikin sauƙi. Koyaya, ba koyaushe bane zai yiwu a gudanar da irin wannan aikin da kan ku. Wani lokaci ƙwararre dole ne yayi aiki tare da ƙwaƙƙwaran tunani - masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam ko likitan kwantar da hankali.

Lokacin da halartar ƙwararre musamman abin so

1. Kuna yawan cin abinci don kwantar da kanku. Ƙoƙarin cin abinci yana ƙara damuwa ko baƙin ciki.

2. A cikin rayuwar ku akwai wani takamaiman, yanayin damuwa, rikici a wurin aiki ko a rayuwar yau da kullun, alal misali, cikin alaƙa da ƙaunatattu.

3. An sami karuwar nauyi bayan canjin salon rayuwa: aure, ƙaura zuwa wani birni, da sauransu.

4. Kun kasance kuna rage nauyi, amma, bayan rasa nauyi, ba zato ba tsammani kun ji "ba a wuri" ba, ya zama da wahala sadarwa tare da abokai, kuma jin kadaici ya bayyana. Rage nauyi bai kawo canje -canjen da ake tsammanin a rayuwar ku ba.

5. Kuna rasa nauyi sau da yawa, kuma cikin nasara. Amma da ƙyar kuka rasa nauyi, kuna sake samun nauyi da sauri.

6. Ba abin daɗi ba ne ku karanta wasu sassan wannan labarin kuma kuna son gurfanar da marubucin wani abu.

7. Ba za ku iya bayyana wa kanku dalilin da yasa kuke buƙatar rage nauyi ba. Ba za ku iya lissafa fa'idodi uku ko huɗu waɗanda rasa nauyi zai bayar ba. Manufofi na zuwa cikin tunani, kamar: shiga cikin wandon jeans na bara ko tabbatar wa masoyan cewa kuna da kyau tare da son rai.

8. Kuna jin ƙuntatawa tare da baƙi kuma kuna ƙoƙarin yin shuru a gefe, don kada kowa ya kula da ku. Kuna danganta wannan da kiba kuma kuna jinkirta ɗabi'a mai kyau don lokacin bayan asarar nauyi ("idan na rasa nauyi, to zan rayu").