Mai tsanantawa, Wanda aka azabtar, Mai Ceto: Tatsuniyoyi 5 Game da Triangle Karpman

Babban triangle na Karmpan (wanda ake kira shi) ya zama musamman akai-akai da aka ambata a Rasha a cikin shekaru 10-15 na ƙarshe. Wanda aka azabtar, Mai ceto, Mai tsanantawa - sanannun sunayen ga waɗanda ke sha'awar ilimin halin ɗan adam. A cikin Drama Triangle, duk ayyukan guda uku ba su inganta ba, wato, ana girma da su, ba a haife su ba. Kasancewa a cikin ɗaya daga cikin ayyukan, mutane suna amsawa bisa ga abubuwan da suka gabata, kuma ba a kan gaskiyar "nan da yanzu ba." A lokaci guda, ana amfani da tsoffin dabarun yanayi.

A kusurwar hagu na zanen Triangle na Drama akwai Chaser. Yana magana daga matsayin "Ba ni da lafiya - ba ku da kyau". Haka nan kuma yana raina mutane da wulakanta su, yana sa su ji masu laifi. Mai tsanantawa ya yi watsi da kima da mutuncin wasu, a cikin matsanancin hali har ma ya raina yancin mutum na rayuwa da lafiyar jiki.

A kusurwar dama na zanen akwai Mai Ceto. Yana magana daga matsayi ɗaya "Ba ni da lafiya - ba ka da lafiya", amma ba ya wulakanta, amma kawai yana rage darajar ɗayan. Yana amfani da matsayi mafi girma ko matsayi mai ƙarfi don ba da taimako ga wasu mutane, tunani a kansu da magance matsalolinsu.

A ƙasa akwai wanda aka azabtar. Ita kanta tana jin matsayinta na wulakanci kuma ta yi magana daga matsayin: "Ba ni da lafiya - kuna lafiya." Wanda aka zalunta ya rage darajarsa.

“Wani lokaci ita da kanta tana neman wanda ya tsananta mata don ya wulakanta ta ya sanya ta a wurinta. A wannan yanayin, wanda aka azabtar ya sami damar tabbatar da imanin rubutunsa: “Ba ni da lafiya. Wasu ba sa sona." Sau da yawa wanda aka azabtar yana neman Mai Ceto don taimako da tabbatar da imanin rubutun: "Ba zan iya magance matsaloli da kaina ba." Dole ne a zana triangle isosceles, "in ji masanin ilimin psychologist Lyudmila Shekholm.

Labari mai lamba 1. Wace rawa - irin wannan hali

Stephen Karpman, dan asalin kasar Rasha, ya gabatar da duniya ga wasan kwaikwayo na wasan kwaikwayo a shekara ta 1968. Ya kirkiro wani ginshiƙi da za a iya amfani da shi don nazarin wasanni na tunani, yanayin rayuwar mutum ɗaya da iyali ko kuma wani tsarin zamantakewa.

“Sau da yawa matsayin Mai Ceto, wanda aka azabtar, wanda aka zalunta, ana kuskuren danganta mai tsanantawa ga dukan ɗabi'a. Amma wannan ba gaskiya ba ne, - comments Lyudmila Shekholm. - Alwatika yana nuna rawar da mutum ke takawa a cikin wani wasan tunani na musamman. A peculiarity na wasan shi ne ya sa mutane da tsinkaya. Wasan shine tsarin tsarin lokaci, musayar bugun jini (a cikin harshen nazarin ma'amala, wannan ƙungiya ce ta ganewa. - Kimanin ed.), Tsayawa matsayi na rayuwa "Ba ni da lafiya - kuna lafiya" , «Ba na da kyau — ba ka lafiya» kay», «Ba ni da kyau — ba ka lafiya» da kuma inganta rubutun.

Labari mai ban tsoro 2. Alwatika yana nuna sama

Triangle na Karpman koyaushe kuma dole ne isosceles. "A Rasha, suna son su mayar da shi tare da saman wanda aka azabtar, kuma ana kiran mai tsanantawa mai zalunci, mafarauci, mai fyade, azzalumi, har ma da mai fasikanci. Amma wannan ba gaskiya ba ne, - ya bayyana psychologist. - The classic triangle is located tare da tushe sama: a hagu ne saman da Pursuer, a dama shi ne Mai Ceto, saman wanda aka azabtar ya dubi kasa. Matsayin na mutane daban-daban ne. Akwai nau'i ɗaya kawai na triangle, lokacin da a saman ba mu ga tushe ba, amma saman - wannan shine abin da ake kira Iceberg. Wato mutum ɗaya yana taka rawar Wanda aka azabtar, amma a haƙiƙa, a rashin sani, yana iya zama Mai Ceto kuma Mai tsanantawa. Kuma wannan yana da mahimmanci don sanin don fahimtar ainihin ka'idodin "aikin" na triangle.

Labari #3. Akwai triangle Karpman guda ɗaya kawai.

Ana iya samun sauye-sauye da yawa na sauya matsayi a cikin alwatika. Ɗaya daga cikin alwatika yana taimakawa wajen nazarin wasanni na tunani a cikin iyali ko ma dukan tsarin iyali a cikin tsararraki daban-daban. Kuma wasu (kamar yadda a cikin sigar tare da Iceberg) suna nuna yadda mutum ɗaya zai iya motsawa daga rawar zuwa rawar.

“Misali, babbar Barmaley da kowa ya sani: ko dai shi Mai Tsanantawa ne, sai ya shiga ciki ba zato ba tsammani ya zama Wanda aka azabtar. Ko kuma wani sanannen tatsuniya - game da Little Red Riding Hood. Babban hali yana aiki azaman Mai Ceto lokacin da ta je wurin kakarta mara lafiya. Amma da sauri ya koma ga Wanda aka azabtar. Kerkeci ne da farko mai bi, sannan shi da kansa ya zama wanda aka azabtar da masu bin - mafarauta. Kuma sun zama masu ceton yarinyar da kaka.”

Canjin matsayi wani lokaci yana faruwa da sauri kuma, a matsayin doka, cikin rashin sani. Wanda aka azabtar ya yi mamaki kawai: “Ta yaya zan sake ba shi rancen kuɗi a karo na biyar, domin ba zai sake ba da su ba!”

Labari #4: Triangle Karpman Yana Aiki Ba tare da Wasa ba

Wannan ba gaskiya bane. Triangle na Karpman yana da dacewa a cikin wasannin tunani. Amma ta yaya kuka san abin da ke faruwa a wasan?

"Sai kawai wasan ke faruwa lokacin da akwai magudi a ciki, canza matsayi tare da mummunan sakamako mai mahimmanci. Bisa ga dabarar Eric Berne, dole ne a gina algorithm a cikin wasan tunani: ƙugiya + cizo = amsawa - sauyawa - kunya - ramuwa, ”in ji Lyudmila Sjokholm.

A ce wani mutum ya gayyaci wata yarinya zuwa cin abincin dare (ƙugiya). Ta yarda ta taficizo da dauki). Amma “kamar” bata gane dalilin kiranta da aka yi mata ba, kuma bai fito fili ya fada ba, amma yana nufin ya cigaba da bayan gidan abinci. Dukansu suna riya cewa komai yana tafiya bisa ga tsari.

A lokacin abincin dare, yarinyar, bayan tattaunawa ta ciki, ta yanke shawarar cewa ba za a ci gaba da abincin dare ba. Lokacin da suka yarda, yarinyar tana cikin aikin Mai Ceto, kuma mutumin shine wanda aka azabtar. Sai abin ya faru canzawa: ta zama Wanda aka azabtar kuma ya zama Mai tsanantawa.

Mutumin ya ƙidaya akan ci gaba - saboda wannan, ya shirya kwanan wata. Kin zuwa wurinsa ya ba shi mamaki (kunya). Kamar dai tsakanin layin, duka biyu sun fahimci wannan, amma kada ku furta shi, suna sadarwa a cikin rabin alamu. Don haka ta furta cewa lokaci ya yi da za ta koma gida, kuma yana biya ta hanyar tasi da kanta. A gida kuwa, bayan ta nazarci abin da ya faru, sai ta gane cewa magariba ta sake yi, ta sake zama wawa.

Wani misali na wasan da aka fi so “Me ya sa ba ku…? "Iya, amma..."

Ƙugiya: wani abokin ciniki (wanda aka azabtar) ya zo wurin masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam ya ce: “Ina da matsala, ba zan iya samun aiki ba.”

+ Nibbling (rauni). Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam (Mai ceto): "Ta yaya zan iya taimakawa?"

= Reaction. Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam: "Me yasa ba za ku shiga musayar aiki ba?"

Abokin ciniki: "Eh, amma… kunya."

Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam: "Shin kun gwada tambayar abokan ku?"

Abokin ciniki: "Ee, amma"

sauya sheka: Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam: "To, ban san abin da zan ba ku shawara ba."

Abokin ciniki: "Duk da haka, na gode don ƙoƙarin."

Abin kunya: Duk su biyun sun rude.

Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam (wanda aka azabtar): "Ni mummunan mataimaki ne."

biyaClient (Stalker): "Na san ba za ta taimaka ba."

Labari na 5. Babu wata hanya ta fita daga triangle Karpman.

"Haɗarin" na wasanni na tunani shine cewa suna maimaita kansu bisa ga wannan labari. Sau da yawa wannan shi ne abin da wasu marubutan labarai ke watsawa: suna cewa, babu wata hanya ta fita daga triangle Karpman. Wannan watakila ita ce tatsuniya mafi mahimmanci kuma mafi yaudara.

A baya a cikin 1990, fassarar wata kasida ta Acey Choi manazarcin ma'amala ta Australiya ya bayyana a Rasha, wanda ya ba da "maganin rigakafi". Ta bayyana ingantaccen antithesis ga zanen Karpman, Triangle Mai Nasara. Yana kawar da raguwa kuma yana ba kowane «kusurwa» damar yin aiki da kansa.

“Maimakon zama wanda aka azabtar, mutum ya koyi zama mai rauni. Masu rauni sun san cewa suna shan wahala, suna da matsala. Amma kuma sun fahimci cewa suna da isasshen tausayi, cewa su da kansu za su iya magance matsalolinsu. A shirye suke su nemi taimako a fili ba tare da fara wasannin tunani ba, in ji Lyudmila Shekholm.

A cikin Drama Triangle , Mai Ceto sau da yawa "ya yi kyau kuma ya aikata mai kyau" ga halakar da kansa sha'awa da bukatun, taimaka da kuma warware wasu mutane matsalolin ba tare da tambaya, tilasta masa hangen nesa. A cikin Triangle Na Nasara, Mai Ceto ya zama Mai Kulawa, yana mutunta ikon masu rauni na tunani, aiki, da neman abin da suke buƙata.

Kuma a ƙarshe, Mai tsanantawa yana amfani da kuzari don biyan bukatun kansa da kuma kare hakkinsa.

"Mai amincewa ya fahimci cewa canji mai fa'ida zai iya ɓata wa mutane rai kuma yana ganin yin shawarwari a matsayin wani ɓangare na tsarin warware matsalar. Babban burin ba shine zalunci da azabtar da ɗayan ba, amma canje-canjen da za su yi la'akari da bukatunsa da bukatunsa, "in ji masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam.