Laifukan da masu kisan gilla suka aikata suna tsoratar da miliyoyin mutane. Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Katherine Ramsland ya yi ƙoƙarin gano yadda iyayen masu laifi ke ji game da waɗannan laifuka.
Iyayen masu kisan kai suna da ra'ayi daban-daban game da abin da 'ya'yansu suka yi. Yawancinsu sun firgita: ba su fahimci yadda ɗansu zai iya zama dodo ba. Amma wasu sun musanta gaskiyar lamarin kuma suna kare yara har zuwa ƙarshe.
A cikin 2013, Joanna Dennehy ya kashe maza uku tare da ƙoƙarin ƙarin biyu. Bayan kama ta, ta furta cewa ta aikata waɗannan laifuffuka ne don "ga ko tana da ƙarfin yin hakan." A cikin hoton selfie tare da gawarwakin wadanda aka kashe, Joanna ta yi kama da farin ciki.
Iyayen Dennehy sun yi shiru na shekaru da yawa, har sai da mahaifiyarta Kathleen ta yanke shawarar gaya wa manema labarai: “Ta kashe mutane, kuma a gare ni ba ta nan. Wannan ba Joe na bane." A cikin tunawa da mahaifiyarta, ta kasance yarinya mai ladabi, fara'a da hankali. Wannan yarinya mai dadi ta canza sosai a lokacin kuruciyarta sa’ad da ta fara saduwa da wani mutum wanda ya girme shi sosai. Duk da haka, Kathleen ba zai iya ma tunanin cewa 'yarta za ta zama mai kisan kai ba. "Duniya za ta fi aminci idan Joanna ba ta cikinta," in ji ta.
"Ted Bundy bai taba kashe mata da yara ba. Bangaskiyarmu ga rashin laifin Tad ba shi da iyaka kuma koyaushe za ta kasance,” Louise Bundy ta shaida wa News Tribune, duk da cewa danta ya riga ya amsa kisan kai biyu. Louise ta gaya wa manema labarai cewa Ted ita ce "ɗa mafi kyau a duniya, mai tsanani, mai rikon amana kuma yana son ƴan'uwa maza da mata."
A cewar mahaifiyar, wadanda abin ya shafa da kansu suna da laifi: sun yi wa ɗanta ba'a, amma yana da hankali
Louise ta yarda cewa ɗanta ya kasance mai kisan kai ne kawai bayan an ba ta damar sauraron kaset na ikirari nasa, amma ko a lokacin ba ta musanta shi ba. Bayan da aka yanke wa ɗanta hukuncin kisa, Louise ta ba da tabbacin cewa “zai kasance da ɗanta ƙaunataccen har abada.”
An kama shi a bara, Todd Kolchepp ya nemi ganin mahaifiyarsa kafin ya sanya hannu kan wata ikirari. Ya nemi gafararta kuma ta yafe mata "masoyi Todd, wanda ya kasance mai hankali da kirki da karimci".
A cewar mahaifiyar, wadanda abin ya shafa da kansu suna da laifi: sun yi wa ɗanta ba'a, amma yana da hankali. Da alama ta manta cewa a baya ma ya yi barazanar kashe ta. Mahaifiyar Colhepp ta ƙi kiran ƙwaƙƙwal. Ta nanata cewa komai ya faru ne saboda bacin rai da bacin rai, kuma ba ta dauki danta a matsayin mai kisan kai ba, duk da cewa an riga an tabbatar da kisan gilla guda bakwai kuma ana kan binciken wasu da dama.
Yawancin iyaye suna ƙoƙarin gano dalilin da yasa 'ya'yansu suka zama dodanni. Mahaifiyar mai kisan gilla ta Kansas Dennis Rader, wanda ba a kama shi sama da shekaru 30 ba, ba zai iya tuna wani abu na yau da kullun ba tun yana yaro.
Iyaye sau da yawa ba sa lura da abin da mutanen waje suke gani. Serial kisan Jeffrey Dahmer yaro ne talaka, ko kuma mahaifiyarsa ta ce. Amma malamai sun dauke shi mai kunya da rashin jin dadi. Mahaifiyar ta musanta hakan kuma ta yi iƙirarin cewa Geoffrey ba ya son makaranta kawai, kuma a gida bai yi kama da wulakanci da kunya ba.
Wasu iyaye mata sun ji cewa wani abu yana damun yaron, amma ba su san abin da za su yi ba
Wasu iyaye mata, akasin haka, suna jin cewa wani abu yana damun yaron, amma ba su san abin da za su yi ba. Dylan Roof, wanda a kwanakin baya aka yanke masa hukuncin kisa bisa laifin kisan mutane tara a wata cocin Methodist da ke South Carolina, ya dade yana fusata kan yadda kafafen yada labarai ke yada labaran wariyar launin fata.
Lokacin da mahaifiyar Dylan, Amy, ta sami labarin lamarin, sai ta suma. Bayan ta murmure, ta nuna wa masu binciken kyamarar danta. Katin ƙwaƙwalwar ajiya ya ƙunshi hotuna masu yawa na Dylan tare da makamai da kuma tutar Ƙungiya. A budaddiyar kararrakin kotun, uwar ta nemi gafarar rashin hana aikata laifin.
Wasu iyaye mata ma kan mayar da masu kashe yara ga ‘yan sanda. Lokacin da Geoffrey Knobble ya nuna wa mahaifiyarsa bidiyon kisan da aka yi wa wani mutum tsirara, ba ta so ta gaskata idanuwanta. Amma da ta fahimci cewa danta ya aikata laifi kuma bai yi nadamar abin da ya aikata ba kwata-kwata, sai ta taimaka wa ’yan sanda su gano tare da kama Jeffrey har ma ta ba da shaida a kansa.
Mai yiyuwa ne martanin da iyaye ke yi game da labarin cewa ɗansu dodo ne ya danganta da al'adun iyali da kuma yadda dangantakar iyaye da yara ta kasance. Kuma wannan batu ne mai ban sha'awa kuma mai faɗi don bincike.
Game da Mawallafin: Katherine Ramsland farfesa ce a fannin ilimin halin dan Adam a Jami'ar DeSalce a Pennsylvania.