Abubuwa 7 na psychosomatic na rashin haihuwa na mace

Idan mace tana da:

• mahaifa;
• aƙalla bututun fallopian mai wucewa ɗaya;
• ovary a gefe guda (ko aƙalla ɓangarensa);
• jima'i na yau da kullum ba tare da kariya ba;

... amma ciki baya faruwa a cikin shekara guda, zamu iya magana game da rashin haihuwa na tunani. Kuma mafi inganci kuma mafi aminci kayan aiki don warware matsalar a cikin wannan harka shi ne taimakon wani gwani psychotherapist.

Babu sihiri. Komai yana iya ganewa a asibiti. Gaskiyar ita ce, a lokacin haihuwa, duk tsarin jikinmu an riga an kafa shi, sai dai daya - haihuwa. Yana tasowa a tsawon rayuwa, tun daga ƙuruciya har zuwa girma.

Fiye da shekaru ɗari da suka wuce, masanin ilimin lissafi na Rasha Alexei Ukhtomsky ya gabatar da manufar "maƙasudin rayuwa" a cikin amfani da kimiyya. A cikin kalmomi masu sauƙi, rinjaye shine abin da ya fi muhimmanci ga mutum a cikin wani lokaci na rayuwa. Wannan shine mabuɗin sha'awa, buƙata.

A cikin tsarin jigon mu, yana da daraja magana game da masu rinjaye biyu lokaci guda, wanda ke bayyana ci gaban rashin haihuwa na tunani:

• rinjaye na haifuwa;
• rinjaye damuwa.

A haifuwa rinjaye raka irin wannan matakai kamar jima'i sha'awa da kuma zabi na jima'i abokin tarayya, da kuma triggers da dama physiological matakai: kwai maturation, endometrial girma, ovulation, implantation na tayin kwai a cikin mahaifa - da kuma tsara tsarin ciki.

Babban damuwa, bi da bi, shine ke da alhakin kiyaye kanmu.

Idan ɗaya yana aiki, ɗayan yana naƙasasshe. Ga jiki, aikin "rayuwa" shine aikin fifiko na "haihuwar yaro." Lokacin da mace tana da ra'ayi akan matakin da ba a sani ba (rashin hankali) cewa yana da haɗari ko ban tsoro don yin ciki a yanzu, ana danne rinjayen haifuwa tare da taimakon hanyoyin ilimin halittar jiki wanda damuwa ya mamaye.

Menene zai iya kunna rinjayen tashin hankali?

1. SHAWARA DAGA MANYAN MANYAN MATASA.

Iyaye (ko mutanen da ke maye gurbinsu) kusan alloli ne ga yara, kuma yaron yana shirye don cimma burinsu ta kowane hali. Irin wannan ainihin "saitin" ya zama dole a gare shi don babban abu - rayuwa: "Idan ba na so ni ba, na sadu da tsammanin iyayena, za su ƙi ni, sa'an nan kuma zan mutu."

Bisa kididdigar da na yi, zan iya cewa kowace mace ta uku ta ji wadannan kalamai daga mahaifiyarta tun tana karama:

• "Cikin ciki yana da wuya";
• "Haihuwa yana da muni, yana ciwo!";
• "Yaya na sami ciki da ke, an buge ni sosai, yanzu ina shan wahala a rayuwata!";
• "Abin ban tsoro ne, yayin da ake ciyar da ku, dukan kirjin ku ya yi rauni";
• "Saboda haihuwar ku, sana'ata ta ragu";
• "Yara halittu ne marasa godiya, karin baki, nauyi."

Bada kanka ka ga cewa iyayenka su ne talakawa mutane, wanda, mafi m, ba su dauki tarbiyyar darussa kuma ba su ziyarci psychotherapists, ba karanta littattafai a kan abin da aka makala ka'idar da kuma yaro ilimin halin dan Adam, da kuma a general rayuwa a wani lokaci a lokacin da duk abin da ya bambanta.

Rubuta a kan takarda duk tunani da halaye masu lalata game da ciki da haihuwa da kuka karɓa daga waje, kuma a hankali ku ba su ga marubuta. Har ila yau, ya kamata a lura da shawarwarin da wasu likitoci a makarantu da asibitocin daukar ciki suka bayar, wanda, abin takaici, mafi yawan lokuta ba tare da tushe ba tare da tushe ba tare da tushe ba tare da tushe ga yara mata da kuma kunyata su.

2. KARANCIN CIWON HANKALI

Ciki da kuma, a sakamakon haka, iyaye mata suna ƙaddamar da balagaggen tunani - wato, shirye-shiryen ba da karfi ga wani da kuma yanke shawara mai zaman kanta.

A lokaci guda kuma, yana da mahimmanci a cikin irin waɗannan labarun cewa canza alƙawari ga wasu: "Duk wanda ya ɗauke ni a hannuna ..." ko "warware duk abin da kanka" ya zama ruwan dare a cikin matan da ke fuskantar ganewar asali na "rashin haihuwa".

Baligi na ciki shine tabbataccen fahimtar cewa babu wanda ya wajaba ya tallafa mana kuma babu wanda ke bin mu bashi. Manya ba su ƙi taimakon waje ba, amma sun fahimci cewa wannan taimakon zaɓin wasu ne, ba aikinsu ba.

3. SHIRYE

Haihuwar yara daga ma'anar aiki, a ƙarƙashin karkiyar "har zuwa 30 kowannensu ya wajaba ya haihu" ba shine mafi kyawun dalili ba. Rashin son yara na wani lokaci ko gaba ɗaya yayin rayuwa shine al'ada! Rashin saduwa da tsammanin abokin tarayya, ƙaunatattuna da dangi suna da ban tsoro ga yawancin. Amma duk da haka, yana da mahimmanci a yi zaɓi mai kyau: rayuwa ba tare da cin amanar kanku ba, ko rayuwa saboda wasu mutane.

4. TSORO

• "Ba za a sami taimako ba - ba zan iya jurewa ba";
• "Zan zama m, zan zama bebe a kan hutun haihuwa";
• "Ba zan iya jurewa ba";
• "Babu wani abu da zan yi girma a kai - ba zan iya sanya shi a ƙafafuna ba."

Yana da mahimmanci mu gane cewa tsoro abokanmu ne. Kamar rinjayen damuwa, suna kare mu, suna kiyaye mu. Kuma mafi mahimmanci, zamu iya koyan sarrafa su. Wannan shi ne abin da ke ƙarƙashin ikonmu.

5. SHAKKA A ABOKIN ABOKI

• Misali, kun zaɓi ku kasance tare da mutum ba tare da al'ada ba;
• Kuna da shakku game da daidaiton zaɓin, ku tambayi kanku: "Na tabbata ina son yara daga wannan mutumin?";
• Kuna tsoron rasa abokin tarayya saboda ciki?
• Akwai tsoron cewa abokin tarayya ba zai iya ba da kariya ba (ciki har da kudi).

Ga waɗanda ke da kyakkyawar haɓaka tunanin tunani-misali, Ina ba da motsa jiki mai sauƙi amma mai tasiri - yi ƙoƙarin ganin kanku ta idanun abokin tarayya. Ka ji kamar shi na 'yan mintoci kaɗan ka dubi kanka, ka ji yadda yake kusa da kai. Mafi mahimmanci, za ku tabbata cewa mutumin ya yi farin cikin zama wanda kuka zaɓa - bayan haka, wata hanya ko wata, shi da kansa ya yanke shawarar zama kusa.

Har ila yau, yana da daraja amsa gaskiya ga kanka tambayoyi game da dalilin da yasa kake jin tsoron cewa rayuwa tare da abokin tarayya ba zai yi aiki ba bayan haihuwa.

6. HUKUNCIN KAI

A matsayinka na mai mulki, sakamakon jin kunya ne da laifin abin da aka yi ko ba a yi ba. Matar da take yin tuta a kai a kai tana da kalmar guda ɗaya a bayanta a cikin kanta: “Ban cancanci ’yancin zama uwa ba, ni mugun mutum ne”; "Ban cancanci zama mutum mai farin ciki ba."

7. CIWON FALALA

Da zarar an fuskanci zafi da tashin hankali, jiki zai iya "tuna" wannan tsoro na dogon lokaci. Inda akwai tashin hankali, rinjaye na damuwa yana kunna ta atomatik - babu wurin shakatawa. Sabili da haka, idan dole ne ku jure tashin hankali, hanya mafi kyau ita ce tuntuɓar likitan ilimin halin ɗan adam.

A ƙarshe, Ina so in jawo hankalin ku ga gaskiyar cewa sha'awar manic don ciki na iya haifar da duk tashin hankali iri ɗaya wanda a ƙarshe ya toshe farkonsa.

Kamar yadda Ukhtomsky ya ce, daya daga cikin hanyoyin da za a iya fita daga ƙarƙashin rinjayar daya daga cikin masu rinjaye shine sababbin ra'ayoyi, fadada fahimta, neman sababbin abubuwan sha'awa. A taƙaice, kuna buƙatar matsawa hankalin hankali daga ciki zuwa… kanku.

Hakanan yana da amfani don duba rayuwar ku daga waje kuma ku fahimci ainihin abin da ke motsa tunaninmu, yanke shawara, ayyukanmu - don nazarin babban damuwar ku kuma a hankali rage matakin ji.

Ɗauki rashin samun ciki na ɗan lokaci a matsayin darasi na rayuwa, ba hukunci ba. Darasi da tabbas za ku gane, ku bi kuma ku sami damar zama uwa.