Oedipus: 'yata kawai tana da shi ga mahaifinta!

Dangantakar 'ya da uba

Daddy, daddy, daddy… Lucie, ’yar shekara 4, babu abin da ya rage sai babanta. Watanni kadan kenan ta nuna rashin ko in kula ga mahaifiyarta. Babanta ne kawai yake samun tagomashi a idonta. Tare da shi, ta yi ton na shi: kallo, flirtatious murmushi… Ta deigning cin abinci kawai idan shi ne wanda ya zaunar da ita a kan tebur da kuma daura ta napkin. Sai ta yi shela da babbar murya: a wurinsa ne za ta aura. Kuma yayin da Jade, 3, ta nemi mahaifinta ya yi ado da safe da daddare don kwanciyar hankali, Emma, ​​5, a nata bangaren, tana ƙoƙari kowane dare don zama tsakanin iyayenta a gadon aure. Kuma Laïs, ’yar shekara 6, ta maimaita a nufin “Ka ce papa, kana sona fiye da inna?” "

Oedipus ko Electra hadaddun menene ma'anar? Me kuke cewa yarinya mai son mahaifinta?

Amma me ke damun su? Babu wani abu sai dai banal sosai: sun haye lokacin hadadden Oedipus. An yi wahayi zuwa ga hali daga tatsuniyar Girkawa wanda ya kashe mahaifinsa kuma ya auri mahaifiyarsa, wannan tunanin daga tsohuwar tatsuniya yana nufin lokacin da yaro ke samun soyayya mara sharadi ga iyayen kishiyar jinsi, da kuma jin kishi ga iyayen jinsi daya.. A yanayin da Oedipus hadaddun yana cikin dangantaka ta uba / 'yar, ana kuma kiranta da hadaddun Electra.

https://www.parents.fr/enfant/psycho/le-caractere-de-mon-enfant/comment-votre-enfant-affirme-sa-personnalite-78117

Ma’ana: Me ya sa qanana ‘yan mata suka fi son babansu?

Babu buƙatar yin wasan kwaikwayo. Tsakanin shekarun 2 zuwa 6, hadaddun Electra wani lokaci ne na ci gaba da haɓakawa gaba ɗaya. “A farkon rayuwarta, yarinyar tana da dangantaka ta kud da kud da mahaifiyarta. Amma kadan kadan zata bude wa duniya ta fahimci akwai kamar mahaifinta. wani jima'i wanda za ta ci gaba da sha'awar gaske ", Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Michèle Gaubert ya bayyana, marubucin" 'yar mahaifinsa ", ed. na Man.

Tun daga shekaru 3, yarinyar ta tabbatar da jima'i. Abin koyinsa ita ce mahaifiyarsa. Tana ganeta da ita har tana son taje wurinta. Don haka ku yaudari mahaifinsa. Sai ta rika ganin mahaifiyarta kishiya ce sai ta yi kokarin ture ta gefe, wani lokacin da karfi. Amma a lokaci guda, har yanzu tana son shi sosai kuma tana jin laifi game da mummunan motsin zuciyarsa. Duk yara masu shekaru 3 zuwa 6 suna cikin wannan yanayi mai hadari. Yara ƙanana suna wasa da babansu kuma suka rungume mahaifiyarsu. Ƙananan 'yan mata suna haɓaka hanyoyin lalata da mahaifinsu. Daga karkatar da tunaninsu ya haifar da tashin hankali, rudani wanda kawai iyaye, ta hanyar tsayin daka amma fahimtar hali, za su iya kawar da su.

Rikicin Oedipus a cikin yarinya: rawar da uba ke taka muhimmiyar rawa

"Gaba ɗaya, uban yana jin daɗin saka shi a gaban abin da ke faruwa", in ji Alain Braconnier, likitan hauka kuma masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam a Cibiyar Philippe Paumelle, a Paris. “Amma idan bai kafa iyaka ba, yarinyarsa za ta iya yarda cewa sha’awarsa za ta iya cimmawa, kuma ta ci gaba da yunƙurin lalata. ” Don haka muhimmancin sanya shi a wurinsa kuma ya nuna mata cewa ma'auratan sun wanzu a wajenta. Ba ma jinkirin gyara shi ba, ba tare da tsawatawa ko sanya shi jin laifi ba shakka. “Ta hanyar ture ta sosai, za ka yi kasadar sa ta rashin jin daɗi kuma ka hana ta, a matsayinta na babba, daga kusancin namiji,” in ji likitan hauka. Siffar da za ta yi wa kanta, na kasancewarta mace da kuma ikonta na lalata a nan gaba ya dogara da kallon sha'awar da yabo da mahaifinta ke aika mata. Amma fiye da duka, ba ma yin wasansa, ba mu bar shi ya gaskata ta halinmu cewa za a iya yaudare mu a kan rajistar da aka tanada don manya.

Yadda ake gudanar da dangantakar oedipal: dangantakar kishiya tsakanin uwa da 'ya

'Yar mu ta yi banza da mu a sarauta? Da kyar uwa ta karba. "A cikin rukunin Electra, uwa takan kula, a wannan lokacin, don jin ware », Jawabin Alain Braconnier. Babu maganar shafe mu. "Don haɓaka cikin jituwa, yaron yana buƙatar haɓakawa a cikin alaƙar uku", in ji likitan hauka. Don sake daidaitawa, muna tunanin keɓe kanmu lokuta na musamman, kaɗai tare da ita. Zai taimaka masa ya gane mu a wasu wurare. Mun kuma tuna cewa ƙaramin “kishiyar” ɗan ƙaramin yaro ne, namu, wanda yake ƙaunarmu kuma yana dogara gare mu mu ja-gorance ta. Don haka ba za mu yi mata ba’a, ba ma dariya ga yunƙurin da take yi don faranta wa mahaifinta rai. Amma muna kwantar mata da hankali, sa’ad da na tsaya tsayin daka: “Ni ma, sa’ad da nake shekarunka, na yi mafarkin in auri babana. Amma hakan ba zai yiwu ba. Lokacin da na zama mace na hadu da mahaifinki, mun yi soyayya kuma haka aka haife ki. "

Bangaran inna

Kallon mahaifinsa ya bata mana rai? Sama da duka, muna guje wa shiga hamayya. A hankali yake tuna masa cewa mahaifinsa ba nasa bane. Amma muna ci gaba da zama masu ƙauna… da haƙuri. Oedipus zai zama abin tunawa mai nisa.

Oedipus hadaddun: da kuma lokacin saki

A cikin wannan lokaci mai mahimmanci, "a cikin yanayin rabuwar iyaye, wajibi ne a guje wa kowane hali cewa uba ko mahaifiyar da ke da rai suna rayuwa ne kawai don yaron kuma su kafa "ƙananan ma'aurata" tare da shi. Yana da kyau cewa ƙaramin yaro da yarinyar suna cikin hulɗa akai-akai tare da wani ɓangare na uku - aboki, kawu - don karya dangantakar haɗin gwiwa. In ba haka ba, yana iya haifar da rashin cin gashin kai daga bangarorin biyu. »Masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Michèle Gaubert ya kammala.