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Da yawa daga cikinmu sun taso muna ganin cewa maza sun yi auren mata fiye da daya, mata kuwa sun yi aure. Duk da haka, wannan ra'ayi game da jima'i bai dace ba, in ji masana ilimin jima'i. Amma menene ya fi zama ruwan dare a yau - auren mata fiye da ɗaya na duka jinsi ko amincin su?
"Maza da mata sun auri fiye da daya bisa ga dabi'a"
Alain Eril, masanin ilimin psychoanalyst, masanin ilimin jima'i:
Ka'idar psychoanalysis tana koya mana cewa dukkanmu, maza da mata, bisa ga dabi'a muna yin auren mata fiye da daya, wato, a lokaci guda muna iya fuskantar sha'awa ta hanyoyi daban-daban. Ko da muna so da sha'awar abokin zamanmu ko abokin tarayya, sha'awar mu yana buƙatar abubuwa da yawa.
Bambancin kawai shine ko mun matsa zuwa ga ayyukan da suka dace ko kuma mun yanke shawara kuma muka sami ƙarfin kanmu mu guji su. A baya can, a cikin al'adunmu, namiji yana da irin wannan dama, amma mace ba ta da.
A yau, matasa ma'aurata sau da yawa suna bukatar cikakken aminci.
A gefe guda, ana iya cewa aminci yana tilasta mana mu ga wani takaici, wanda a wasu lokuta yana da wuyar jurewa, amma a daya bangaren, takaici lokaci ne da za mu tuna cewa ba mu da iko a kan komai kuma bai kamata mu yi tunanin cewa duniya ba. wajibi ne mu bi son zuciyarmu.
A zahiri, batun aminci yana warware shi a cikin kowane ma'aurata ta hanyoyi daban-daban, ya danganta da gogewar mutum da shekarun abokan tarayya.
"Da farko, maza sun fi auren mata fiye da daya"
Mireille Bonierbal, likitan hauka, masanin ilimin jima'i
Idan muka lura da dabbobi, za mu lura da cewa mafi sau da yawa namiji taki da dama mata, bayan da ya daina shiga a, ce, shiryawa na qwai ko a kiwon yara. Don haka, auren mace fiye da ɗaya da namiji ya zama kamar an ƙaddara ta ilimin halitta, aƙalla a cikin dabbobi.
Amma dabbobi da mutane sun rabu ta hanyar dogon tsari na zamantakewa. Ana iya hasashe cewa asali maza sun fi auren mata fiye da daya a yanayi.
Ta hanyar haɓaka ƙarfin ibada, sannu a hankali sun canza wannan halayen jima'i.
A lokaci guda kuma, majiyyata da ke zuwa wasu shafuka akai-akai don "cinyar jima'i" sun tabbatar da cewa akwai rashin daidaituwa tsakanin halayen maza da mata a cikin irin wannan yanayin.
Mutum, a matsayin mai mulkin, yana neman dangantaka ta jiki zalla, marar ɗaurewa ta kwana ɗaya. Akasin haka, shawarwarin yin jima'i da ke fitowa daga mace sau da yawa shine kawai dalili, a gaskiya ma, tana fatan daga baya gina dangantaka ta ainihi tare da abokin tarayya.