Yi rayuwa mafi kyau tare da kamala

Yi rayuwa mafi kyau tare da kamala

Yi rayuwa mafi kyau tare da kamala

Shin duk abin da kuke yi dole ne a yi shi daidai? Kuna saita maƙasudai waɗanda galibi suna da girma, ko ma waɗanda ba za a iya cimma ba? Waɗannan halayen babu shakka suna nuna ɗabi'a ta kamun kai. Yana yiwuwa a rayu cikin koshin lafiya tare da wannan sifar halayyar. An kai shi matsananci, duk da haka, yana iya zama mara lafiya kuma yana cutar da jin daɗin rayuwa har ma da waɗanda ke kusa da wasu mutane.

 "Alamomin sun bambanta daga mutum ɗaya zuwa wani," in ji Frédéric Langlois, farfesa a Sashen ilimin halin ɗan adam a Jami'ar Quebec a Trois-Rivières (UQTR).

Wadannan halaye na iya bayyana a wurare daban-daban, kamar a wurin aiki, a cikin dangantaka da wasu, ko ma a cikin ayyukan yau da kullum. "Cikakken kamala ya zama mara lafiya yayin da mutum ya kasa daidaita ka'idodin aikin da ya ɗora wa kansa gwargwadon lokacinsa ko wasu matakan rayuwarsa", in ji mai binciken.

Perfectionism zama m lokacin da1 :

  • ka ƙara wa kanka damuwa don cimma kamala;
  • ba mu jin wani daɗi saboda rashin gamsuwa a koyaushe;
  • mutum yakan yi wa kansa wuya;
  • mun kammala cewa komai ba daidai bane da zaran bai cika ba;
  • mun koma baya cikin son yin kyau sosai;
  • mu guji yin abubuwa ko ajiye su saboda tsoron kasawa;
  • a ko da yaushe muna shakkar aikinsa;
  • muna tayar da martani a kusa da mu, saboda kamala.

Daga 2005 zuwa 2007, Frédéric Langlois da tawagarsa sun gabatar da takardar tambaya ga marasa lafiya da ke halartar asibitin damuwa da yanayin yanayi. Dangane da sakamakon binciken su1, mahalarta waɗanda suka nuna alamun wuce gona da iri suna cikin haɗarin haɓaka rikice-rikicen tunani kamar ɓacin rai, damuwa gaba ɗaya ko tilastawa.

“Mai binciken cututtukan cututtukan yana jin rashin gamsuwa na har abada da matsin lamba na yau da kullun wanda yake sanyawa kansa. Idan ban da wannan mutumin dole ne ya magance babban matakin damuwa, wanda ya mamaye dukkan ƙarfinsa. Zai zama mafi rauni kuma sakamakon na iya yin illa sosai, ”in ji Frédéric Langlois.

Magani?

Ta yaya mai son kamala zai fita daga muguwar da'irar fiye da kamala? Mafi girman ƙimanta, ƙaramin abin da ake iya samu. Wannan yanayin yana ƙara yin ƙima kuma mutum zai rama ta hanyar neman ƙarin kansa. Amma yana yiwuwa a dawo da kimar ku.

"Manufar ita ce canza ƙananan halaye a lokaci guda," in ji Frédéric Langlois. Sau da yawa masu kamala suna manta da manufar abin da suke yi. Manufar ita ce samun jin daɗin abin da kuke yi, sassauta ƙa'idodin ku don sa su zama na gaske kuma ku bar nasara. "

Fiye da duka, kada ku yi jinkirin tuntuba. Taimakon ilimin halin ɗabi'a zai iya taimakawa canza hasashe da saita maƙasudai masu yiwuwa.

Dabarun rayuwa mafi kyau tare da kamala1

  • Da farko ku gane cewa wannan al'ada na iya haifar da wahala.
  • Kafa ƙananan canje -canjen canji kuma sannu a hankali ƙara adadin ƙalubalen da za a cika.
  • Gane cewa akwai yuwuwar dama tsakanin “kasawa” da “cikakke” kuma yanayin ba koyaushe yake buƙatar matakin kamala ɗaya ba.
  • Lura cewa mutane kalilan ne ke ganin kamalar aikinmu ko kuma suna sane da duk abin da ya buƙaci (babu wanda yake tambayar mu muyi haka).
  • Koyo game da ajizanci ta hanyar lura cewa babu wani mummunan sakamako (har ma akwai fa'idodi masu yawa ga abubuwan da aka yi da kyau, ba tare da kasancewa cikakke ba).
  • Sanin yadda ake neman taimakon tunani, idan ya cancanta.

Emmanuelle Bergeron - PasseportSanté.net

Sabuntawa: Agusta 2014

1. Daga jaridar A tunanin ku, Jaridar hukuma ta Jami'ar Quebec a Trois-Rivières.

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