Idan yaron yana da ban sha'awa sosai: abin da ya kamata iyaye su yi

Kowane yaro yana kula da abubuwan motsa jiki na waje: don canje-canje a dandano, zafin jiki, amo da matakan haske, zuwa canje-canje a cikin yanayin girma. Amma akwai wadanda suka fi murmurewa daga shimfiɗar jariri. "Ku tuna da jarumar tatsuniyar Andersen The Princess and the Pea," masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam Vyacheslav Lebedev ya ba da misali. "Irin waɗannan yaran da ƙyar ba za su iya jure wa fitilu masu haske da sauti masu tsauri ba, suna kokawa da jin zafi daga ƙanƙanta, suna jin haushin mittens da tsakuwa a cikin safa." Suna kuma siffanta su da kunya, tsoro, bacin rai.

Idan halayen yaron sun fi bayyana fiye da na ɗan'uwansa / 'yar uwarsa ko wasu yara, yana da sauƙi don rashin daidaita shi, yana buƙatar kulawa ta musamman. "Yaron da ke da nau'in tsarin juyayi mai karfi ba zai damu ba sa'ad da ya ji wata muguwar kalma da aka yi masa magana," in ji likitan neurophysiologist. "Kuma ga ma'abucin rauni, kallon rashin abokantaka ya isa." Ka gane danka ko 'yarka? Sannan kiyi tanadin nutsuwa da hakuri.

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Kada ku azabtar da yaron

Misali, don kuka ko fushi. Vyacheslav Lebedev ya ce: "Ba ya yin haka don ya jawo hankalin mutane ko kuma ya cimma wani abu, ba ya iya jimrewa da halayensa." Ku kasance a shirye ku saurare shi kuma ku taimaka ku dubi halin da ake ciki daga wancan gefe: "Wani ya yi mummunan aiki, amma ba laifinku ba ne." Wannan zai ba shi damar tsira daga laifin ba tare da daukar matsayin wanda aka azabtar ba. Tun daga haihuwa, yana buƙatar ƙarin shiga fiye da sauran. Yana shan wahala fiye da sauran lokacin da na kusa da shi suka ƙasƙantar da abubuwan da ya faru ("Me ya sa kuke jin haushi a kan ƙananan abubuwa!").

Ka guji ba'a

Yara masu hankali sun fi dacewa da rashin amincewar manya, ga sautin jin daɗi ko haushi. Suna jin haushin ba'a - a gida, a makarantar yara ko makaranta. Gargadi malami game da wannan: yara masu rauni suna jin kunyar halayensu. Suna jin cewa ba kamar kowa ba ne, kuma suna fushi da kansu saboda wannan. Vyacheslav Lebedev ya nanata cewa: "Idan suka zama abin da ake nufi da kalaman batanci, to, girman kansu zai ragu," in ji Vyacheslav Lebedev.

Kar a yi gaggawa

"Tafiya zuwa kindergarten, sabon malami ko baƙi da ba a sani ba - duk wani canje-canje a cikin rayuwar al'ada yana haifar da damuwa a cikin yara masu saukin kamuwa," in ji masanin ilimin psychophysiologist. - A wannan lokacin, suna samun jin daɗi kusa da ciwo, kuma suna ba da ƙarfi mai yawa don daidaitawa. Don haka yaron a ko da yaushe yana cikin faɗakarwa.” Ka ba shi lokaci don daidaitawa da sabon yanayin.

Ka mai da hankali

Tare da kaya

"Yara masu hankali suna gajiya da sauri, don haka ku kula da ayyukan yau da kullun na yaranku, barci, abinci mai gina jiki da kuma motsa jiki." Tabbatar cewa yana da lokacin hutawa a cikin shiru, kada ku bar shi ya zauna a gaban allon wayar. Kada ku bari ɗanku ko 'yarku su zauna har tsakar dare suna yin aikin gida (a matsayin doka, ba sa barin tunanin zuwa makaranta ba tare da kammala aikin ba). Kafa ƙayyadaddun ƙayyadaddun lokaci don karatu. Ɗauki alhakin kuma ku kasance a shirye don wani lokaci sadaukar da maki mai kyau ko wani nau'i na da'irar don yaron ya sami lokacin dawowa.

Tare da tawagar

Vyacheslav Lebedev ya ce: "Idan yaro yana jin daɗin yin magana da takwarorinsa ɗaya kawai kuma ya saba da surutu da ayyukansa, kada ku nemi ƙarin abokai goma." "Yaran da ke da tsarin juyayi mai rauni sau da yawa suna jin kunya, suna samun murmurewa ta hanyar rufe kansu daga duniyar waje. Ayyukan tunanin su yana kai tsaye zuwa ciki. Don haka kada ku gaggauta tura danku ('yarku) zuwa sansanin har tsawon mako biyu. Idan yaron ya ga hankalin iyaye kuma ya ji lafiya, to sannu a hankali zai ci gaba da haɓakawa.

Tare da wasanni

Ana horar da juriya, amma ba ta matakai masu tsauri ba. Ta hanyar aika dansa "sissy" zuwa sashin rugby ko wasan dambe, mai yiwuwa uban ya ba shi rauni a hankali. Zabi wasanni masu laushi (yin yawo, keke, ski, wasan motsa jiki). Kyakkyawan zaɓi shine yin iyo: yana haɗuwa da shakatawa, jin daɗi da damar samun iko akan jikin ku. Idan kun ji cewa yaronku baya son wasanni, nemi wanda zai maye gurbinsa ko ƙara yawo.

Karfafawa

Creation

Ko da yake yaronka ba shi da isasshen iyaka na ƙarfi da juriya, yana da nasa abũbuwan amfãni, yana da tunani, iya da dabara ya gane kyau da kuma bambanta da yawa tabarau na kwarewa. Vyacheslav Lebedev ya ce: “Waɗannan yara suna sha’awar kowane irin kirkire-kirkire: kiɗa, zane, rawa, ɗinki, wasan kwaikwayo da ilimin halin ɗan adam, da dai sauransu. "Duk waɗannan ayyukan suna ba ku damar juyar da hankalin yaron zuwa ga fa'idarsa kuma ya jagoranci motsin zuciyarsa a hanya madaidaiciya - don bayyana bakin ciki, damuwa, tsoro, farin ciki, kuma kada ku kiyaye su cikin kansa."

Introspection

Yi nazari tare da yaron yadda yake ji da motsin zuciyarsa. Ka gayyace shi ya rubuta a cikin yanayin littafin rubutu sa’ad da ya zama marar taimako. Nuna motsa jiki waɗanda ke taimakawa sarrafa motsin rai kuma kuyi su tare. Girma, 'yar ko ɗa ba za su zama masu hankali ba: yanayin zai kasance iri ɗaya, amma halin zai kasance mai fushi. Suna dacewa da yanayin su kuma suna samun hanya mafi kyau don sarrafa shi.