Muna zargin kanmu kan kowace matsala. Abokin aikin bai yi murmushi ba - Laifi na. Mijin ya zo bakin ciki daga aiki - Na yi wani abu ba daidai ba. Yaron yana sau da yawa rashin lafiya - Ina kula da shi kadan. Kuma haka yake cikin komai. Ta yaya za ku iya sauke nauyin nauyi kuma ku fahimci cewa ba ku ne cibiyar duniyar wasu mutane ba?
Sau nawa muke ganin wasu suna yin wani abu saboda mu, cewa dalilin ayyukansu shine ayyukanmu ko halayenmu! Idan wani abokina ya gundura a ranar haihuwata, laifina ne. Idan wani ya zo wucewa bai ce “sannu” ba, da gangan suka yi watsi da ni, me na yi kuskure?!
Lokacin da muka yi tambaya game da "Me yake tunani game da ni", "me ya sa ta yi haka", "Yaya suke ganin wannan yanayin?", Muna ƙoƙarin shiga bangon da ba zai iya yiwuwa ba a tsakaninmu, domin babu wanda zai iya gani kai tsaye. abun cikin duniyar wasu. Kuma wannan shine ɗayan mafi kyawun fasalin mu - don yin zato game da yadda duniyar ciki ta wani ke aiki.
Wannan ikon ya fi sau da yawa yana aiki tare da rauni mai rauni na sani, kuma kusan ci gaba, farawa daga ƙuruciya. Mama ta dawo gida daga aiki - kuma yaron ya ga cewa tana cikin mummunan yanayi, ba a haɗa shi a cikin wasanni ba, ba ya sauraron abin da ya ce, kuma a zahiri ba ya kallon zane-zane. Kuma ƙaramin yaro ɗan shekara huɗu yana ƙoƙari, gwargwadon ikonsa, don fahimtar dalilin da yasa hakan ke faruwa, menene ba daidai ba.
A wannan lokacin, yaron ba zai iya fahimtar cewa duniyar manya ya fi girma fiye da siffarsa ba.
Hankalin yaron ya kasance mai girman kai, wato, yana ganin shi yana tsakiyar duniyar iyayensa kuma kusan duk abin da iyaye suke yi yana da alaƙa da shi. Sabili da haka, yaron zai iya zuwa ga ƙarshe (kuma wannan ƙaddamarwa ba sakamakon sakamako mai mahimmanci ba ne, amma jin dadi) cewa yana yin wani abu ba daidai ba.
A psyche helply jefa up tunanin lokacin da inna ko uba ya sosai m da wani abu a cikin hali da kuma koma daga gare shi - da kuma hoto a fili: yana da ni - dalilin da cewa inna ne don haka «uncluded». Kuma dole ne in yi wani abu game da shi cikin gaggawa. Ƙoƙarin zama mai kyau, sosai, mai kyau, ko ƙoƙarin farantawa mahaifiyarka rai ko ta yaya. Ko kuma kawai tsoro cewa mahaifiyata ba ta sadarwa da ni yana da ƙarfi sosai har ya rage kawai don yin rashin lafiya - to mahaifiyata yawanci tana mai da hankali sosai. Da dai sauransu. Duk waɗannan ba yanke shawara ba ne, amma yunƙurin rashin sanin yakamata don inganta yanayin.
A wannan lokacin, yaron ba zai iya fahimtar cewa duniyar manya ta fi girma fiye da siffarsa kuma har yanzu akwai abubuwa da yawa da ke faruwa a waje da sadarwar su. A ransa, babu abokan aikin mahaifiyarsa da ta yi rigima da su. Babu wani shugaba mai fushi, barazanar kora, matsalolin kudi, kwanakin ƙarshe da sauran "al'amuran manya".
Yawancin manya, saboda dalilai daban-daban, sun kasance a cikin wannan matsayi: idan wani abu ba daidai ba ne a cikin dangantaka, wannan shine kuskurena.
Jin cewa duk ayyukan da wasu suke yi mana saboda ayyukanmu ne halin halitta na ƙuruciya. Amma manya da yawa, saboda dalilai daban-daban, sun kasance a cikin wannan matsayi: idan wani abu ba daidai ba a cikin dangantaka, wannan shine aibi na! Kuma yana da wuyar fahimtar cewa ko da yake za mu iya isa ga wasu don a sami wuri a gare mu a cikin ransu, har yanzu bai isa mu zama cibiyar abubuwan da suka faru ba.
A hankali raguwar ra'ayin ma'aunin halayen mu a cikin zukatan wasu, a gefe guda, yana hana mu amincewa da yanke shawara game da ayyukansu da dalilansu, kuma a daya bangaren, yana ba da damar fitar da numfashi. da sauke nauyin nauyin nauyin abin da wasu suke tunani da ji. Suna da nasu rayuwarsu, a cikinta ni kaɗai ce guntu.