Yana da wuya a yi tunanin dangantakar soyayya da ba ta da kishi. Har ila yau, ba sabon abu ba ne a yi tunanin cewa, akasin haka, wanda ba shi da kishi ko kadan ba ya son abokin tarayya da gaske. Saboda haka, ji biyun suna da alaƙa da juna.

Hasali ma, kishi martani ne ga barazanar da mutum na uku ke yi kan dangantakar da muke da ita. Yana da tsoron ganin abokin tarayya yana jin dadin wani mutum, sabili da haka sha'awar ci gaba da dangantakarsa, shine asalin wannan jin.¹. A wannan ma'anar, kishi bai zama hujjar soyayya ga abokin tarayya ba fiye da sha'awar ci gaba da mallaka. Idan har jin soyayya ya kan jawo a haƙiƙanin ilhami na mallaka, to ba lallai ba ne abin ya zama gaskiya, don haka ba soyayya ce ke bayyana kishi kai tsaye ba.

M.-N. Schurmans, "Jalousie", Kamus na tashin hankali, 2011