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Abubuwan da ke tattare da ilimin halin ɗan adam ga haihuwa
Magungunan haihuwa sun sami irin wannan ci gaba a cikin 'yan shekarun nan wanda mutum zai iya tsammanin raguwar haihuwa a hankali. Amma ba haka lamarin yake ba, bisa ga binciken da hukumar ta INED ta yi na kwanan nan. Yawan haihuwa na farko (4%) bai canza ba har tsawon ƙarni. Ko da abin mamaki, ƙwararru a cikin LDCs suna ƙara samun kansu suna fuskantar "haihuwar haifuwa". A halin yanzu, 1 cikin 4 lokuta na rashin haihuwa ya kasance ba a bayyana ba. Yaron da ake so da yawa bai zo ba kuma duk da haka ƙididdigar rashin haihuwa, yanayin zafin jiki, jarrabawa da nazari sun kasance na al'ada. Abin kunya sosai, likitocin sai suka yi bincike na "haihuwar mahaifa", wanda ke nuna cewa cikas da ke hana mace zama uwa ba matsala ce ta kwayoyin halitta ba amma ta hankali. A cewar likitoci, abubuwan tunani suna taka rawa a kusan dukkanin rashin haihuwa. Duk da haka, akwai maɗaukaki na asali na tunani zalla waɗanda ke bayyana kansu ta hanyoyi daban-daban, kamar rashin lafiyar kwai.
Ji a shirye don haihuwa
Wadanne dalilai na tunani ne ke da ƙarfi don haifar da toshewar mahaifa? A da, barazanar yaron ya kasance a ko'ina, dole ne mu yi wasa da wuta, yaron ya fito daga abin da ba a sani ba, sha'awar mace da namiji da kuma hadarin da ba makawa da muka dauka ta hanyar yin soyayya. Yanzu matan da suke son yaro dole ne su daina shan kwaya ko a cire IUD. Tare da maganin hana haihuwa, alhakin ya koma gefen mace. Abin da ya zama kamar 'yanci ya koma a nauyin bacin rai yayi nauyi da yawa. Cikin hankali da rashin sani, tambayoyi da yawa sun taso: shin wannan mutumin da ya dace da ni? Wannan shine lokacin da ya dace? Na shirya? Idan ya zama mara kyau fa? Sakamakon, yana toshewa! Wannan sabon 'yanci, wanda ba zai yuwu ba yana haifar da canji a lokacin yanke shawara zuwa iyakokin haɗarin gazawa. Don haka mata suna shiga cikin dabarar ƙalubale.
PMA ba zai iya magance komai ba
Tun lokacin da aka haifi Amandine, jaririn gwajin-tube na farko, kafofin watsa labaru suna ta yada manyan nasarorin da aka samu na maganin haihuwa. Godiya ga ci gaban fasaha, komai ya zama mai yiwuwa, to abin da muke ji kenan a ko’ina. Mata sun dogara da magani don fahimtar rashin yara, suna so su sami mafita a waje da su, suna dogara ga likita a makance a matsayin mai ilimin halin dan Adam. Da yake sun gamsu da ikon likitanci, suna shagaltuwa da magunguna masu nauyi sosai, suna gwada jiki da tunani, tare da sha'awar samun nasara wanda ke rage sakamakon. Muguwar da'ira ce.
Son yaro ba koyaushe yake son yaro ba
Manufar likitocin ita ce su taimaki ma'auratan da suke shirye su ba da ƙauna ga yaro don tabbatar da sha'awar su. Amma ba za mu taɓa sanin gaba da dabarar hanyar haɗin gwiwa tsakanin bayyananniyar nufi ba, da kuma sha'awar da ba ta sani ba da alama hakan zai bayyana. Ba don an tsara yaro ba, ana son shi da sane, shi ya sa ake nemansa. Kuma akasin haka, don kawai yaro ya zo ba tare da an tsara shi ba yana nufin cewa ba a so. Likitocin da suke daukar bukatun mata a zahiri suna amsa musu suna yin watsi da sarkakiyar ruhin dan Adam. Ta hanyar yin hira da wasu marasa lafiya da suka nemi taimakon haifuwa, mun gane cewa wannan tunanin yaro ba zai yiwu ba. Suna da'awar yaro, amma soyayyar danginsu ta zama haramun ne yin yaro. Nan da nan, martanin likitocin mata waɗanda ke ba da taimakon haifuwa bai dace ba…
Wahala tare da mahaifiyarsa
Raunin da suka duba cikin waɗannan rashin haihuwa mara dalili alama Muhimmancin alakar mara lafiya da mahaifiyarta. Kowane rashin haihuwa na da na musamman, amma a cikin gungumomi na haihuwa ba zai yiwu ba an sake maimaita dangantakar da mace ta yi da mahaifiyarta. Akwai wani ganewar da ba zai yiwu ba tare da mahaifiyar da take da ita a matsayin jariri, wani abu na wannan tsari zai yi mummunan aiki ko kuma ya haɗa da mummunar. Mun kuma sami sau da yawa " tunanin haihuwar haihu wacce irin wannan ko irin wannan macen ke ganin ita ce abin, don haka ne ke gamsar da bukatu mara kyau daga mahaifiyarta na ganin an hana ta ‘ya’ya. », Yayi bayanin kwararre na PMA François Olivennes, wanda ke aiki tare da René Frydman. “Amma a kula, mu kan yi tunanin cewa wannan ita ce uwa ta gaske, amma uwar da muke da ita ce a kai! Ba wai kai tsaye ake cewa 'Ba a sanya ki ki haihu ba' ko 'Bana ganinki uwa sam! », Ya kamata a warware shi…
"Raunin hankali" hadurran rayuwa
Wasu dalilai suna maimaitawa a cikin labarun "mafi yawan ciwon hauka", wannan shine abin da ya bugi Dr Olivennes yayin shawarwarinsa. Wani lokaci akwai alamun kai tsaye. Akwai misali wacce ta zo neman shawara da mahaifiyarta maimakon sahabinsa. wanda ya rasa ɗan fari a cikin yanayi mai ban tsoro, wanda ya yi rashin jin daɗi yarinta. Ko kuma wadda mahaifiyarsa ta rasu tana haihu, ko wadda aka yi mata fyade, ko wadda mahaifiyarsa ta bayyana haihuwa a matsayin wani bala’i mai ban tausayi da ta kusa rasuwa. Wasu mutane suna jin laifi game da dakatar da ciki. An gano rashin haihuwa da ba a bayyana ba kadan halin cewa namiji yana son yaron fiye da mace. Matar ba ta da ikon karbar yaron a matsayin kyauta, a matsayin kyauta, sharuɗɗan haihuwarta sun lalace. Suna jin an sace musu burin yaronsu. Wasu mutane suna ambaton dalilin rashin haihuwa na psychogenic a rashin zuba jari na aikin uba. Amma jera waɗannan abubuwan “mai tayar da hankali”, waɗannan raunin hankali ta wannan hanyar suna da daɗi sosai saboda ba za a iya fitar da su daga mahallin ba! Ya rage ga kowace mace ta sami nata hanyar da za ta ɗaga toshewar.