Kowannenmu zai iya samun kanmu a cikin yanayi mai wahala wanda ba shi da sauƙin ganewa, kuma neman shawarar masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam a cikin wannan yanayin ya isa sosai. Idan abokin ciniki, a cikin irin wannan roko, yana cikin matsayi na marubucin, yana tsammanin tunani na haɗin gwiwa, ƙima na ƙwararru da girke-girke na warwarewa, ciki har da buƙatar koyon wani abu, masanin ilimin halin dan Adam kawai ana buƙatar ya zama mai dacewa a cikin wannan halin da ake ciki mai mahimmanci wanda ke da wahala ga abokin ciniki. .
Idan kuna fuskantar matsalar yin barci, kuna buƙatar sanin abin da ke taimaka muku barci da kyau. Idan uwa ba za ta iya kulla dangantaka da matashi ba, kana buƙatar fahimtar dangantakar su.
Maza masu kunkuntar sun fi son yin watsi da matsalolinsu, mata masu kunkuntar hankalinsu sun kwantar da hankali ta hanyar sassauta matsalolinsu, masu hankali suna magance matsalolinsu, masu hikima suna rayuwa ta hanyar da ba su da matsalolin tunani.
Duk da haka, ya kamata a la'akari da cewa buƙatar "ma'amala da yanayi mai wuya" na iya ɓoye wasu, ƙananan aiki da saitunan matsala.
Ina so kawai in daidaita dangantakarmu!
“Ina so in gane shi” sau da yawa yana nufin: “Ba na magana da yawa, bari mu yi magana game da ni!”, “Ku yarda da ni cewa ina da gaskiya!”, “Tabbatar cewa su ne alhakin komai!” da sauran wasannin magudi.
Ina so in fahimci kaina
Buƙatar "Ina so in fahimci kaina", "Ina so in fahimci dalilin da yasa wannan ya faru da ni a rayuwata" yana ɗaya daga cikin buƙatun da suka fi dacewa don shawarwari na tunani. Yana kuma daya daga cikin mafi rashin gina jiki. Abokan ciniki da suka yi wannan tambayar yawanci suna ɗauka cewa suna bukatar fahimtar wani abu game da kansu, bayan haka rayuwarsu za ta inganta. Wannan tambaya ta haɗu da sha'awar sha'awa da yawa: sha'awar zama cikin haske, sha'awar jin tausayin kanku, sha'awar samun wani abu da ke bayyana kasawara - kuma, a ƙarshe, sha'awar warware matsalolina ba tare da yin wani abu ba don wannan ↑ . Me za a yi da wannan bukata? Don juya abokin ciniki daga tono a baya don yin tunani ta hanyar gaba, fassara zuwa saita takamaiman manufofi da tsara takamaiman ayyukan abokin ciniki wanda zai kai shi ga burin. Tambayoyin ku: “Abin da bai dace da ku ba, ba shakka. Kuma me kuke so, wace manufa za ku kafa?", "Menene ku da kanku kuke bukata don yin shi yadda kuke so?" Tambayoyin ku yakamata su ƙarfafa abokin ciniki suyi aiki: "Shin kuna son samun algorithm, bayan kammala wanne, zaku sami amsar tambayoyinku"?
Hankali: zama a shirye don gaskiyar cewa abokin ciniki zai saita maƙasudai mara kyau, kuma kuna buƙatar fassara manufofin su cikin tabbatacce akai-akai (har sai kun koya wa abokin ciniki yin shi da kanku).
Idan abokin ciniki yana da wahalar fahimtar manufofin su na gaba, to aikin "Ina so, zan iya, a cikin buƙata" na iya taimakawa. Idan mutum bai san ko kadan abin da yake so ba, to kana iya yin lissafin abin da ba ya so da shi, sannan ka gayyace shi ya yi kokarin yi, to abin da ya ke a kalla tsaka tsaki a kansa.