Tunani: ta yaya sha'awar jariri ta tashi?

Daga ina sha'awar yaro ta fito?

Sha'awar yaro ya samo asali - a bangare - a cikin yara, ta hanyar kwaikwayo da kuma ta hanyar wasan tsana. Da wuri sosai, daYarinya takan gane mahaifiyarta ko kuma tare da aikin mahaifiyar da ke wucewa ta cikin jin dadi, tausayi da sadaukarwa.. Kusan shekaru 3, abubuwa suna canzawa. Yarinyar ta matso kusa da mahaifinta, sai ta yi fatan ta maye gurbin mahaifiyarta kuma ta haifi kamarta ɗan mahaifinta: Oedipus ne. Tabbas, yaron ma yana cikin duk waɗannan tashin hankali na hankali. Sha'awar yaro yana bayyana ƙasa da shi ta hanyar tsana, jarirai, fiye da injunan wuta, jiragen sama… Abubuwan da bai sani ba yana haɗuwa da ikon uba. Yana so ya zama uba kamar mahaifinsa, ya zama daidai da shi kuma ya sauke shi ta hanyar lalatar mahaifiyarsa. Sha'awar yaro sai ya kwanta barci don farkawa mafi kyau a lokacin balaga, lokacin da yarinyar ta zama mai haihuwa.. Saboda haka, "canjin ilimin lissafin jiki zai kasance tare da balagagge mai hankali wanda, a hankali, zai kawo ta ga saduwa da soyayya da kuma sha'awar haihuwa", in ji Myriam Szejer, likitan ilimin likitancin yara, psychoanalyst, a asibitin haihuwa. Asibitin Foch, a cikin Suresnes.

Sha'awar jariri: sha'awar ambivalent

Me ya sa a wasu mata sha'awar yaro ya bayyana da wuri yayin da wasu suka ƙi, suna danne ra'ayin iyaye na shekaru masu yawa, sannan yanke shawara kafin ba zai yiwu ba? Kuna iya tunanin cewa la'akari da ciki tsari ne mai hankali kuma bayyananne wanda ya fara tare da dakatar da hana haihuwa da gangan. Yana da, duk da haka, ya fi rikitarwa. Sha'awar yaro wani yanayi ne da ke da alaƙa da tarihin kowa, ga dangin da suka gabata, ga yaron da ɗayan ya kasance, ga haɗin gwiwa tare da uwa, ga mahallin ƙwararru. Mutum na iya samun ra'ayi na son yaro, amma wanda bai yi ba saboda wani jin dadi yana da fifiko: "Ina so kuma ba na so a lokaci guda". Halin da ke cikin ma'aurata yana da yanke hukunci saboda zabin fara iyali daukan biyu. Don a haifi yaro, “sha’awar mace da ta abokiyar zamanta dole ne su hadu a lokaci guda kuma wannan arangama ba koyaushe take bayyana ba”, ya jaddada Myriam Szejer. Har ila yau wajibi ne a kan matakin ilimin lissafi duk abin da ke aiki.

Kada ku dame sha'awar ciki da sha'awar yaro

Wasu matan, wani lokacin ƙanana, suna nuna sha'awar yara da ba za a iya jurewa ba. Suna da son yin ciki ba tare da son yaro ba, ko kuma suna son yaron da kansa, don cike gibi. Tunanin yaro, lokacin da ba a bayyana shi da sha'awar ɗayan ba, zai iya zama hanyar gamsar da sha'awar sha'awa zalla. "Waɗannan matan suna tunanin cewa za su kasance masu inganci ne kawai lokacin da suke uwaye", in ji masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam. ” Matsayin zamantakewa yana wucewa ta matsayi na uwa saboda dalilan da aka rubuta a tarihin kowa. Hakan ba zai hana su zama uwa ta gari ba. Matsalar haihuwa kuma na iya haifar da sha'awar yaro. Mata da yawa sun yanke kauna daga rashin ciki yayin da suke yin jinya. Abubuwan toshewa na psychic waɗanda galibi suna yin tushe a cikin dangantakar uwa da ɗiyar na iya bayyana waɗannan gazawar da aka maimaita. Muna son yaro fiye da komai, amma a cikin yanayin rashin sani wani ɓangare na mu ba ya son shi. jiki sai ya ki daukar ciki. Don ƙoƙarin cire waɗannan matsalolin da ba a sani ba, aikin psychoanalytic yana da mahimmanci sau da yawa.

Abin da ke haifar da sha'awar yaro

Sha'awar yaro kuma wani bangare ne na yanayin zamantakewa. Kimanin shekaru talatin, mata da yawa suna yin ciki kuma suna haifar da sha'awa iri ɗaya ga waɗanda ke kusa da su. A wannan mahimmin lokacin, yawancin mata masu zuwa sun riga sun fara sana'arsu da kyau kuma yanayin kuɗi ya fi ba da kansa ga yin mafarki game da aikin haihuwa. A cikin shekaru da yawa, tambaya game da uwaye ya zama mafi mahimmanci kuma agogon halittu yana sa ƙaramar muryarsa ta ji lokacin da muka san cewa haihuwa shine mafi kyau tsakanin shekarun 20 zuwa 35. Sha'awar yaro kuma yana iya motsa shi ta hanyar sha'awar bayarwa. ƙaramin ɗan'uwa ko 'yar'uwar ɗan fari ko don ƙirƙirar babban iyali.

Lokacin da za a ba da yaro na ƙarshe

Sha'awar zama uwa yana da alaƙa ta kut-da-kut da ilhami na haihuwa. Kamar kowace dabba mai shayarwa, an tsara mu don haifuwa muddin zai yiwu. An haifi yaron lokacin da ilhamar haihuwa ta zo daidai da sha'awar yaro. Ga Myriam Szejer, “mace koyaushe tana bukatar yara. Wannan ya bayyana dalilin da ya sa lokacin da ƙarami ya fara girma kuma ta ji cewa yana zamewa, an saita sabon jariri," in ji ta. Wani wuri,” yanke shawarar daina haihuwa yana dandana a matsayin renunciation na gaba yaro. Yawancin mata da aka tilasta wa zubar da ciki bisa ga bukatar mazajensu suna rayuwa cikin mummunan yanayi saboda a cikin su, an keta wani abu sosai. Menopause, wanda ke wakiltar ƙarshen haihuwa, wani lokacin kuma yana jin zafi sosai saboda ana tilasta mata su ba da yaron don kyau. Sun rasa ikon yanke shawara.

Babu sha'awar yaro: me yasa?

Yana faruwa ba shakka haka wasu matan ba sa jin sha'awar yaro. Wannan na iya zama saboda raunukan iyali, ga rashin cikar rayuwar aure ko kuma ga son rai da gangan. A cikin al'ummar da ke ɗaukaka uwa, wannan zaɓi na iya zama da wuya a ɗauka a wasu lokuta. Duk da haka, rashin sha'awar yaro ba zai hana mace cikakkiyar rayuwa ta mace ba kuma daga shiga wasu hanyoyi cikin cikakkiyar 'yanci.

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